LOVING YOUR KIDS 4EVA
Edited album cover 4EVA N A DAY by BIG K.R.I.T
THE FATHERHOOD EXPERIMENT: A Newsletter for fathers
This Weeks Edition Is About loving your kids forever, fa-eva-eva- is a mighty long time. I'm a happy man when that's what's on my mind.
Step back to see how you can step up, modify or correct any behavior (positive & negative) and lead your relationships in the right direction.
This week is sort of a love letter, specifically for my Son(s)
A Fathers love is easy, but it's never felt that way because children think owning their thoughts makes them grown enough to say fuck it all and sometimes sneakily fuck all y'all.
We change so much; it gives ruin a run at our temple.
Build your foundation with love daily. Some mornings we wake up thieves- feeling like a weapon for robbery. Negativity is one of the suicides to life. Love can feel gone in a snap. We can end it all over ego with ideals pumping stronger than libido. Fathers have to fight to keep love alive with a will stronger than Thanos.
My Kid woke up cranky like he went to sleep out of tune. Vibrating worry for being irresponsible. Steady doing what brings life’s worries. Angry with doubt while refusing to heed conversations of discipline.
He opens your mind with piercing looks. Cracks a smile rather than a book but reads open moments to add his bit of sense. He breaks hearts while filling them with hope.
A survivor of covid is a lazy excuse like middle child syndrome. It lacks evidence, but what other reason would he argue to control, and refuse to stop until you lose yours? That makes me feel hurt and see violence. So, I step back to silence the riot. To figure out his escape, so I can help him find a better way and take it.
The desire for my children's success is part of the reason I started praying again. life feels spooky, and scary when a father sees he’s raising any form of lack and depression. I know an excuse and a deadly creation, and my opinion makes me an asshole who gives a shit about their differences.
Childhood taught me monsters are real- even though adults tell you not to believe as they crossed lines into abuse and addiction.
Aaahhh Fuuck!
Tears flowing from emotions I thought I was over. Dosing worries I control. This can’t be the feeling they were chasing. Eyes blood shot, heart pounding, closing off to a world of love. The devil is one sexy bitch- and the way I’m feeling- God is the son of one. I don’t mean that, I just want to feel like my angels have my back.
I want to hit someone.
It feels like nobody understands-kids-suffering- unwilling to talk about the problems holding them until they believe they're out of danger. Turning parents into strangers. I wish they would hand them over. I’m a warrior against grief. But fighting is how we believe.
When I try to help, I turn into the monster they need but have a hard time relating. Moods shift, eyes glint anger, fear and confusion. Then I ask the question that makes me seem scary.
You listening?
But am I? or Judging?
I get the pain. Like- Andre 3 stacks- It’s in my veins.
You are never alone, and I know why you feel you can’t let go. The release means you don’t have cover. All eyes on your fall, but when you jump towards healing, success provides aid long past recovery.
I’m here to help you maneuver past yours and obstacles keeping you still.
Fathers want their kids to feel our love. But happy feelings ain’t always part of life’s luxury. So do what you need to get what you want, and you'll be satisfied with more than enough.
LISTEN!
I'm a proud parent when you lose, fail and fall. Continue facing everything quitters avoid, because it will help you win. So you always make me a proud parent
Fathers Be…
Present. Discipline. Understanding. Fair. Teachers. Teachable. In shape. Money Earners. Masculine. Gentle. Firm with Respect. Strong. Tough. Like Ice Cube said the "wrong man to fuck with"!!! I also say be the right man to love.
That’s the luxury and legacy your children will grow towards and love.
Dad Joke.
Are you a pie?
Because I’d like a piece of you.
Music I’m Enjoying
BIG K.R.I.T.
Book’s I’m Studying (The Holy Ones)
THE BIBLE
THE QURAN
Book I’m (Still Reading)
DUBLINERS (James Joyce)
Movie I Recommend
HARLEM NIGHTS (1989).
To all the Fathers wondering "HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?"
My advice is "JUST DON'T PULL OUT!"
A Fathers Job(e)
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THE FATHERHOOD EXPERIMENT: A Newsletter for fathers
This Weeks Edition Is About working through success and struggle.
Love for your child should be given not earned.
Do it and do it well. And when you don't-that's what you must tell yourself, because struggle remains when you pretend. Success doesn't allow hidden weaknesses. Learn to be the provider and leader of your family. That is what a father is meant to be. Never show up with excuses, it proves you useless.
Know this tho, a father will always be used. Make sure it’s for a purpose that benefits the ones you love and are teaching to control their truth.
STRUGGLE
Makes a man capable.
Never be ashamed of the ones you go through. It teaches you to protect your vision when laziness clouds your focus. Laziness is a foul stench to success. Along with a lack of ambition, it's the shit a father should struggle to stomach.
Struggles are brief moments when you own up to them. Otherwise, you will spread'em like a rash. You can make yourself love struggle- having fun being lazy- playing games and yourself, all day scratching and sniffing your balls and ass.
The cracks from working to carve out your worth will wear you down and mark you with the charm of the family junkie doing dirt to build trust and show love.
You can’t avoid struggle. I’ve tried. It creates and leads to more lies.
You have to look at what needs attention, not just what feels important. Don't settle until you’re rich enough to not fall for ruin.
STUBBORNESS
You gotta have it. Like a Spike Lee Joint.
A hard head beats suffering.
A lion has stages to his hunt to be king. He's gotta grow into it. Study conditions that influence. People will make the wrong decision if they think their integrity won't be questioned so peace must be pursued with a weapon. A father must form his from the stubbornness of wanting to own his gifts and humble his curses.
Stubbornness breeds a pedigree of living for a piece beyond what’s given.
I'm tired of hearing the last of the dying, so I give energy to life. That's a rare secret to plant rather than bury. It's a remedy for depression that sprouts happiness and eases worry.
Become the light your children chase, so the fun of lust, drugs, and reckless sex, doesn’t hold them in place.
A father should never hold their children in place unless it puts them 1st.
2nd is learning from failure.
3rd is rounding the bases of business instead of genitalia.
Remind them, nuttin' ain't free. Getting to it without preparation always costs more than planned. That type of stubbornness unforgiving.
A FATHER WORKS TO ENHANCE OR RUIN!
Understand both, and only master what fulfills the needs of the family.
A Man is Born. A Father is Formed. He is doom for those holding innocence hostage, gambling what allows a child to flourish.
A long life of struggle can cause fathers to chase death. The enlightened would rather build new memories than be destroyed by ones he can't fix.
Remember to make peace and share what’s left. You'll see what’s missing when your world refuses to listen. Spinning from stubborn struggle, the music of life's blues provides rhythm to work through your troubles. Just pay attention to who smiles, and frowns when you thrive and when you struggle.
A Father must make the most from the job he is given.
Dad Joke.
My wife asked me to spoon in bed, I said after you let me fork.
Music I’m Enjoying
Ka, (Grief Pedigree)-The Album
Book’s I’m Studying (The Holy Ones)
THE BIBLE
THE QURAN
Book I’m Reading
DUBLINERS (James Joyce)
Movie I Recommend
DEAD PRESIDENTS (1995). This movie may be hard to watch if you are a Veteran.
For a father, slow is fast.
Be slow to judge and fast to love.
A child will rush towards what and who makes them feel welcome.
To all the Fathers wondering "HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?"
My advice is "JUST DON'T PULL OUT!"
CLEANLINESS
Try to remove emotion from interactions. Emotions erase evidence so you can't reconcile for the family's benefit.
The dirt will always be there. Move to come up from under it. And away from those spreading it to always have a box to play in.
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THE FATHERHOOD EXPERIMENT: A Newsletter for fathers
This Week's Edition Is About Cleaning Your House
There are many things and many ways.
The most beneficial is to focus on the behavior and mentality you desire and want to keep.
Focus on the filth.
You Know! The basics.
They say cleanliness is next to raising your consciousness and life to a level d-evils keep the hell away from you.
Clean deep and often to keep dirt out of the head and jeans of your family.
YOU KNOW! The ones filthy people try to come in and out of, to create lovers of negativity and poverty.
USE NON-TOXIC BEHAVIOR & LANGUAGE
When you work hard to soften and dispose of your flaws, but the ones you call your heart focus on where you’ve been instead of how you're doing and the greatness you're trying to bring.
Try to remove emotion from interactions. Emotions erase evidence so you can't reconcile for the family's benefit.
The dirt will always be there. Move to come up from under it. And away from those spreading it to always have a box to play in.
CLEAN WHAT YOU WANT TO AVOID FIRST
It’s always about respect. If one person is holding onto a level below- the family will always eye the person pushing elevation as dangerous-and visualize being disheveled. That's pushing dirt to a higher level.
Men should raise men, not momma’s boys. We can't fuck around with forgiveness. We have to make peace with how it’s delivered, then adjust it to our essence because everything we hold can and will be used as a weapon for and against us.
Men should raise women to master their senses. They should never be a common body boys get used to feeling.
CLEAN YOURSELF UP
Fathers should provide. Motivate through ownership. Recovering from mistakes, while understanding- unless you trip or fall, it’s all done on purpose. Do what adds worth instead adding to the dirt.
People get what they seek and represent, they just ignore the manifestation of pain they know comes with it.
SANITIZE THE GERMS
My heart, patience, kindness, anger, and time are ticking bombs. I examine how I’m wired and somedays I’m close to running out. Some of the women who raised me taught me how not to be loyal. They stretched'em out and lined'em - addicted to the come up.
Hot bitches spring new and show you when the fall coming.
Clean your mind to recognize when the dirt's settling-when your kids laugh, wine and joke at discipline because a woman babies them.
Boys make babies.
Men raise them.
Gods guide and release them to create their own greatness.
TAKE OUT THE TRASH
It’s frustrating when past situations lead to busting off your future as a waste.
I'd rather have porn than a fake chick-i can turn it off at my convenience. Too much of that foolishness makes you think real ones are easy to fuck with.
Nipsey said "study your queen so you can give her what she wants without asking", but when every step is second guessed, A man will say fuck it and solely focus on mastering himself.
Every man needs His woman until they change how we feel with laziness.
Stop believing all the lies being sold. Influencing you to be rotten and, sexy. You'll end up pretty, spoiled and alone for that body you souled out for. Too much of anything you desire is unhealthy, and the wrong desire makes discipline feel like a Hoe!
I ain’t too hard to tell you how I feel unless the p!!!y so good and makes me come so quick that I think of crying from embarrassment. We have to run it back so you can feel what I’m working with.
Mothers!!! keep yourself mentally, physically, spiritually healthy so fathers can create heaven when we seed your earth.
Music I’m Enjoying-
Islah, by Kevin Gates
Book’s I’m Studying (The Holy Ones)-
THE BIBLE
THE QURAN
Book I’m Reading (I’m a writer so I’m studying these too)-
HARLEM SHUFFLE by Colsen Whitehead
Movie I Recommend-
AKILLA’S ESCAPE (2020)
Dad Joke-
Why did the snowman suddenly smile?
He could see the snowblower coming.
Special shout out to my wife- A Real, Sexy Woman!
To all the Father's wondering “HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?”
My advice is “JUST DON’T PULL OUT!”
THE RECIPE
Image from Pinterest (Raekwon The Chef)
THE FATHERHOOD EXPERIMENT: A Newsletter for fathers
We know what we want to make out of Fatherhood.
We know what we want to make out of our Children.
What you need to know is...
What do your children desire? They will figure out how to get it soon as you leave. Don't allow the poison of deception to be any part of your relationship's ingredient.
What are YOU made of?
Good N' Plenty of what makes people not want to bother me. Also, what allows family to enjoy a serious man's company.
I’m made of everything that makes eyes sparkle and cry. I’ve been fucked up and rotten enough to press my luck but never took a label that would keep me stuck that way.
Only Be Sweet To The Women In Your Family.
I have no bitterness. I know what it's like playing with fire to feed your family. Nighttime chefs providing dough to those in need. Baby boys and girls holding the flame, so they don’t turn butter for bread. I've seen tears dehydrate and become water for those struggling to keep going. Remember to keep your cool and keep your head.
This recipe is full of flavorful notes on how to love, succeed and live long.
The First Ingredient Is To Know Thyself: Are you a leader, or a follower. You will be both at different points. Accept each. Do your best while in position. It attracts success to your ambition.
Man's mind is an economy. Learn to earn and be your own assistance so you can make yourself the difference.
Respect: Self-first. Don’t allow any fool to create distance.
Peace: It comes with doubt cloaked in war and pain. Agonizing over decisions, thinking your next move has to be perfect or life ain't worth living. Peace will seem like an illusion if you don't figure out what it means, looks like and feels like to you.
Exercise: Violently. Laziness is the enemy! Don't take what’s coming lightly. Being unprepared is a burden so heavy, most don’t come up from under the weight.
Happiness: These moments come and go like every good and bad thing in life. The secret is which one you focus on- not only while you experience them- but also after they are gone. That will determine which direction you move.
Violence: Be careful with it. Be active against it. Let me be clear, I’m not telling parents or children to become violent. I AM telling you to be aware of it. You may not like it, but It is a world popular ingredient. A Man, A Father, must stand for protecting and providing for his family, or they all will fall to and for everyone and everything.
The great, wise, honorable Malcolm X said, “If you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything!”
Consequences: Must make you serious. When you take them as a joke, you become one- standing still and extending the distance between what you want and what you haven’t achieved.
The goal is to provide what you need, celebrate achieving what you want- and be at peace with the failure you never allowed yourself to become.
Dad Joke.
Is that a mirror in your pocket? Because I can see myself in your pants.
Music I’m Enjoying We Live In Brooklyn Baby (Roy Ayers)
Book’s I’m Studying (The Holy Ones)
THE BIBLE
THE QURAN
Book I’m Reading (I’m a writer so I’m studying this too)
AESOPS FABLES
Movie I Recommend
A Bronx Tale (1993)
Repeat what works!
The recipe’s main ingredient should always be love. If that makes someone act distasteful, find a new kitchen.
To all the Father's wondering "HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?"
My advice is Just Don't Pull Out!
BUILDING BRIDGES & BEING PRESENT
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THE FATHERHOOD EXPERIMENT: A Newsletter for FATHER’S
This week is about building bridges and being present.
More power to the men owning and recovering from their sins. Fighting so their kids can see and believe their life is a blessing.
Watch how you show up!
Watch when you show up!
Don’t just be there!
It’s all about your presence! A positive productive one helps you build bridges.
The Power of Presence
Nipsey Hussle said “you know how kids spell love?--- TIME!”
In a world full of distractions, video games, porn, Anti and social media, kids may get excited about the gifts, but when they get bored, and they always do, they tell you. That means they want to spend time with you, so put down the alcohol, weed, phone, video games, food, and women you can’t afford to keep using. Go! spend time with them so they don't end up being a user too.
For the high minded that need to hear shit twice, being present ain’t presenting a gift for your child to open so you can disappear. Deadbeat dads have a powerful lingering spirit.
Here's some tips how Fathers Can Be Present and Build Bridges
The proper term is called Active Listening: As a father who likes to keep the truth simple, I recite the “you got two ears, two eyes and one mouth” to help you figure out--- what their mood is saying? What their face is saying? What is their body language saying? What are their eyes saying?
Are they off, avoidant, turning away like they want you to shut the fuck up? Good… If that’s the only lesson you learn from this, you have the beginning of a sturdy bridge so you can be present.
Spending Quality Time: This IS NOT about what you want your child to improve, unless that’s what they ask you!
Soooo...
Be Present in the Moment: Laugh with them and (gently) at them. Talk with them, not at them. Sit and chill with them, listen to their heart and headache music. You might learn what’s guiding their decisions, along with any unwanted presence.
Being is present father is planting good soil. It's different than dirt. It’s the DNA of God's work, unlike preaching judas word, and killing their ambition.
You won’t always agree with their growth. Try to nurture a different direction, instead of the version of perfection you never reached. Spread some good words that leave them feeling loved and heard instead of hurt.
Dad Joke.
What did the man say to the asshole kid, who said, "I don’t need to listen to you! You ain’t my dad?"
He said-"That’s right, I’m your motherfucker!" (My mother dated a few men I didn't get along with after my father split.) I ended up being cool with one of them. (He was an ex-con, I was a young'n, creating beef and made him the man I hated more than my pops.) Then I grew up, had children of my own and grew to love and respect both of them.
Music I’m Enjoying (Both Full Albums are Dope)
Song: Underestimated by 38 Spesh (feat Benny The Butcher & Che Noir)-Full Album is Mother & Gun
Song: Once A Man Twice A Child by NAS-Full album is Kings Disease III
Book’s I’m Studying
THE BIBLE
THE QURAN
Books I’m Reading (I’m a writer so I’m studying these too!)
TROUBLE IS WHAT I DO by Walter Mosley
FROM MAN TO SUPERMAN by J.A. Rogers
Newsletter I'm studying "5 Bullet Friday" by Tim Ferris
Movie Recommendation
O.G. (starring Jeffrey Wright) (2018)
To All the Father's wondering "HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?"
My advice is "JUST DON'T PULL OUT!"
THE BEAUTIFUL WAR/DIVINE MESSAGE
It’s a beautiful war-this life-how it’s taken after a lovely night. Stary eyes from memories trailing behind a bright future.
Word to God… How you behave is what opens the gates. The path of rejection is paved with the same decisions and behaviors that allow entrance.
The death of failure is about how you livin’ your discipline and how you feed it to your offspring.
My son is going through puberty. Acting like everything he does and feels is new to me. I encourage him to get up and change instead of sitting in pain.
“C’mon dad, I would if I could! You would help more if you left me alone. If you really understood… If you cared… You would give me what I want!” was the message, delivered by an aggressive look and ignoring my direction.
I thought about knocking it out of him. Then I thought- what’s worse- strengthening his sadness or trying to force him out of it. I remembered, when you beat the confused, they make sense out ignorant rules. it will make you a believer in the here and after because they live to haunt you.
WHAT TO DO?
I got angry and thought… Too much soft love makes mean suckers. He needs to see masculinity as rugged instead of made up.
IT’S GOOD TO HAVE EMOTIONS!
You can cry but you also have to fight to overthrow any guide to a soft, weak life.
I told him- at-least change what you’re wearing. Wash off the weary, if your plan is to be a miserable know it all, at-least be happy with your understanding. Because you will always have to answer when your decisions make you question what your what you’re made of.
For all the Father’s wondering “HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?” My advice is Just Don’t Pull Out!
PAY ATTENTION
Art from Pinterest
That’s where the love is. And that’s money!
WHATS MONEY IN THE HOME?
A good attitude, helping your kids work through bad moods instead of cutting ties, cutting loose and banking on being left alone.
Usually, a thankless job until desperation sets, then you have to bet on yourself and raise the stakes for everyone else.
Drop a couple jewels, so when they step out, they only check for people who carry themselves with respect.
Everyone’s got a tell!
THERE ARE CERTAIN THINGS YOU CAN’T GAMBLE WITH.
How do they converse?
Can they hold a conversation with substance other than what someone does or doesn’t have?
If they can’t, toss a book their way for change!
And Everybody’s got some nonsense to add-take it or leave it!
A man ain’t always judged by how he raises his kids but rather by how much he’s home. Even if you have a good one, they say- constantly spinning your wheels to go pay bills can’t pay the debt of being absent. So be careful what you gamble on, especially if you got love at home.
I say a man also has to get up, get out, and go get it- like my favorite group OUTKAST. Can’t gamble on thinking they can tell their kids not to be lazy asses.
YOU EVER BEEN IN A CASINO?
Feels like a crack house. A Trap you don’t sense-filled with smoke, drink, and fooled into enjoying giving away your rent.
THE HOUSE FALLS WHEN YOU DON’T PAY ATTENTION!
Arguments and disagreements about money and time wasted have a villain’s ending. You’re supposed to enter the home and bedroom for happy ones.
I don’t care how much love you got, nothing comes for free. You have to spend more than time. It runs out fast on a broke man’s dime. The patient love that used to put you to sleep, turns to heartache when you add to the lies.
Lack cuts people off to caring and belief.
Lack of love, time, truth, money, health, beauty, and patience.
PAY ATTENTION WHEN HOME AND RELATIONSHIPS START TO FEEL VACANT!
Open your mind so you don’t spread dirt, like empty hands plotting to feed an empty stomach because you can’t handle the yelling and crying from malnourishment.
To all the Father’s wondering “HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?”
My advice is JUST DON’T PULL OUT!!!
STAY DOWN TILL’ YOU COME UP
Art by @agyepkdesigns
The last thing you ever want to hear is “I can’t believe.” So always move like the truth so you can stay off your knees.
When you’re living false, any attempts of what you try to be fail miserably. It took me a long time to embrace living a long life, so I watch my step to find the best version of me in mine.
WHAT ARE YOU STAYING DOWN FOR?
I talked to my cuzzo and he told me it was GOD. And he was finally getting his breakthrough. Living helped him see how much we manifested negativity as we grew-upping the intensity.
I just allowed myself to really believe again. Too much death and living my life chasing memories of our scrappy breed. D-O-G’s before DMX was known, running through hell, carrying the heat that made girls hot.
Learned it was cooler to fight for a spot that can’t be taken by knucklehead’s with bigger Knots.
We used to get our asses beat for F’s. Now it’s the only way to help yourself.
Failure… Fuck that- You fail if you don’t try.
Family… He created his own, young, learned to own himself and responsibility, then grew into the king we always strived to be.
Creation and Family are some of the keys. You will be fucked without these. As you age you should create the one you need and try to add love to the one you grow to leave.
That will get you up and create happiness daily!
GRAVE DIGGER
I avoided regret so long I didn't know how to live with truth. I simply adjusted my lies to influence.
“A man is a man from the way he provides”-38 Spesh
A father should provide hope, but that ain’t enough. Kids need to see a man that gets tougher from his own losses-not just madness and wickedness from being fed up. That takes more than prayer lessons about caution.
It’s too late when you decide to turn back. When you hear that ticking in your head- that’s the emotional bomb telling you that chasing regret has blown your life up. All that noise is your signal to go somewhere else.
Denzel said “you can’t go to the grave with the uhaul truck”
Take your baggage to the grave. Pay your kids with respect. Don't re-supply them with neglect. Pass on praise instead of anger. Pass them the safety of self-control instead of the dangers of running wild. When the old timers say, “you only live once.” That’s half a lie because kids spend half their life living a parent’s truth. Teach them right so when it’s time for them to rest they can wholeheartedly be proud of their moves.
I used to believe sowing my oats made me a better, desirable man. Speaking with slick tongue, making chicks feel the holy ghost with horny strokes and devilish notes. I had to transcend that through Gods wisdom, knowledge, and understanding - realizing attending to self-improvement is the ingredient to improve life instead of treating and fucking it like…
To all the fathers wondering "HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS!" My advice is... JUST DON'T PULL OUT!
FIT’s
Uncle Jerome From SNOWFALL
On the days you don’t like your children-think about them as a friend who needs help and healing instead of a family member who needs to be taught a lesson.
Talk to them like that cool uncle who can laugh and tease and give you keys to a good life… Stories about you parents’ mistakes that resemble but were worse than yours. Pleasure doesn’t come from bagging that girl you been scheming on, but rather getting your muscle, mind and bread up and proving yourself right instead of proving others wrong.
Minding your mutha-fuckin bidness, but watch your tongue before your sliding through life bidding for forgiveness cause all you did was strike out of emotion.
To all the Fathers wondering “HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS!” My advice is JUST DON’T PULL OUT!
MADE IN
Art by Art By ChrisRob on ETSY
Deeeez Nuuuuts
Just kiddin all up in it.
I got in trouble once and was asked how I want people to remember my name. If there’s any negativity attached to that answer-power-making others fear you-being able to fuck anyone who comes near you.
That all changes when you start living for more than just you. When you realize you were made in the moment self-control was lost but your life gave the blueprint to make mine better- in honor of.
Parents who struggled more than you wanted to believe. So, asking for what they couldn’t afford didn’t make you feel needy.
Just a kid enjoying what shouldn’t feel like a struggle or burden to give. Young and wild fools thinking dealers of independence and flashy arrogance are the only adults that are cool. Dollars making chicks holler before bed, so you already knew what was in her head.
Raising Abel bodies with a cane I sometimes use to step up instead of a crutch. I try to reel it in instead of holding back the love. It makes men crazy and weak instead of tough. The fight is what makes you-get nothing without it, so I’ll push to make sure it’s in you.
I think about the times it was missing and pray I remember how to give it. I have nightmares of forgetting cause years I been living under my potential. But that has nothing to do with you. I mention it because honesty has to be another virtue you-me-we are made in.
To all the Fathers wondering “HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?”
My advice is JUST DON’T PULL OUT!!!
Mans Best Friend
Ghost & Riq from POWER
MUTHA F!@$%IN DISCIPLINE
Young man, I understand.
Your tryna stay youthful so you don't have to face the demands of potential. A pass of that type won't ever be given-I forbid it. I'll always hold you to a higher standard than laziness and chasing failure.
Look GOT-DAMMIT!
I Broke the book of Guiness for mistakes repeated. For the record I still can’t believe it. I stay in it to win. Helping you cross the line of forgiveness. Pushing you forward so you avoid backpedaling like a leader caught in a scandal. Or an athlete beat by his poor training. Integrity of self is the scripture to help.
LISTEN BEFORE I LOSE IT!
I hold my hands more than my tongue-hoping prayers wash the stinging venom flung during the storm of anger and disappointment.
DAMN!
The way our chests swell has me saying- bless this child- his heart pumps full of wants so he refuses to see the need for thought.
IT GETS BETTER!
I just want you to build character and not become one.
Screen your flaws. Master your discipline when the glaring eyes are off- so when you step out you remain strong. Mentally, it’s lonesome when your honesty plays a part creating jagged hearts. Breaths that used to mean excitement hurt now, from resentment we let split, all we see is different- looks hurt so much we don’t even hug or use words.
To all the Fathers wondering "HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?" My advice is JUST DON'T PULL OUT!
When Family Disappoints
When family disappoints…
You need someone focused on healing. Food for the soul so life can be full of spirits that guide you to see and go get what’s missing.
For me it’s usually casual insanity. Thinking — -since I’m confident in my disobedience, it’s a mistake unworthy of punishment.
When family disappoints…
The strongest wish is to rid yourself of them. Unfortunate actions, events, thoughts of living without them bring tense anxious relief. Short lived as loving a woman you lust. A life of loneliness comes from busting up homes. Attitudes that make lovers wonder how they never hated… You… Made them hate everything about themselves. They expired by your side, under your watchful eye.
When family disappoints…
It’s because I WAS. I AM. The MAN Allowing such an Influence.
When I decided to chase happiness, my heart pounded as I fought against being wise enough to know what makes me happy without having it? That’s like a man teaching his son how to be a gentleman when his love hurts women. I believed I was the limit because I wasn’t living the image of what others have- smiles keeping a heart young-but if you look close, you’ll see aged agony from everybody injecting life they can’t handle.
To all the Fathers, wondering “How the Fuck Do I Do This?” My advice is — JUST DON’T PULL OUT!
Conscious Father
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You don't have to hide or protect your dreams to build your children's up. Dreams are what you need to be aggressive with.
Raise daughters to lead their love with respect. Have a mind for business and health. Always represent your inner child.
Recognize Anger-It shows what you will allow.
Recognize Danger- It shows what you are capable of.
Recognize Peace-understand war is influenced to start in the mind and ends in between sheets.
Recognize where attention goes of those you want and who want to win you over.
Raise sons to fall for love. Keep their earth firm and complete, like where the ocean meets the desert, provide the best of both worlds.
It's hard to be good. Anyone who says otherwise never tried. The bad take advantage. They soften hearts, seduce flesh, and create what seems like unfair chance.
They understand everyone wants attention. They act like a friendly prick, inching to find out how much they can get away with. Always there for your woman. Giving them a place to rest their heads for comfort when red is all she sees. Catch it or wave goodbye to morals, because they will choose chaos to fill a beach.
Pretending to be lost is harder than admitting wrong. Coming back means crossing paths with everyone you scarred.
No one is innocent, we all pay in a sense. Things we love too much undercut the people we neglect. Feelings pour like something spoiled and leave a stench of sorrow. It can make you think those lumps are what you couldn’t survive. That’s why you couldn’t keep it in and move forward. Being revealed is scary when we believe the world is our judge.
Keep your eyes on what you fear. It brings your strengths into focus. It's prophetic as a Jinn. Life depends on your belief and actions. Life is a spirit. Live until you’re empty.
If you have to con yourself to be around. You'll be the only one paying for something to remain worthless.
To all the fathers wondering "HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?" My advice is Just don't pull out!
Depressed Mode
Father’s get brain fog because they won’t embrace the depression that set in.
Thoughts…
I can't. I shouldn’t. It doesn’t do me any good? A man must keep his family improved. Any less- I’ll receive a sentence of lost respect.
How Fathers Remain strong…
Fathers don’t have time to be depressed. To remain a mother fucker, he’s gotta provide. Get it? I wish I didn’t. I would help myself sooner instead of thinking I will get better by fucking off, ignoring, and sleeping with my doom. That ending is never happy. It terrorizes everyone who loves you.
They say a Man can't allow Weakness.
I haven't felt strong in years- maybe less- not with all the stress. I've forgotten my best- ideas, desires, dreams and memories. The new life you regret begins when your fix is ignoring everything.
What does a Father’s depression feel like?
The nightmare of a good man trapped in the passing of love. Feeling everyone gets it but him. Hating himself for not showing enough. Because he believes success is about personal achievements and being able to spend money, not just time. Broke love is distorted, and when you come poverty, it feels like a crime. It feels like the family always deserves and desires more. Then he creates distance to make his family full of emptiness because it keeps him whole.
Get Professional Help.
If you feel like life is over when you have much life to live and live for. The homies you smoke and drink with have a skewed reality. The women you pillow talk with might see you as sick. They want a healthy dick. Put as much effort into mental health and wealth as looking cool and fucking the baddest bitches.
To all the fathers wondering “how the fuck do I do this.” My advice is Just don’t pull out!
THE WEIGHT OF IT ALL
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Nobody dreams of being…Heavy, fat, overweight, carrying unhealthy genetics.
Those crumbs…
When we indulge, in a hurry like a boys first time- we regret the outcome. A manifested accident is hard to love.
I don’t know any truly happy fat people.
I also don’t know many truly happy people period- something is weighing them all down.
Do I know all the wrong people?
I have obesity in my family. I always thought it was disgusting, and unattractive. Fat repels...
Sounds disturbing, but it’s a failure comforts of disease are found in. That’s been my experience. And my environment is built around obese people surviving on what’s killing them. My body feels like i’m killing it trying to lose the fat then eating and thinking everything to put it back.
What the Fuck…
Lord…
Bless the food making me tired. This drink making me too drunk to think. Fat and free, watching my finances dwindle, my waist, belly, and face expand. Paying more attention to my t.v. and phone than my health or stretching legs to keep me erect.
Now my kids are grown. Dealing with the weight of the world and parents’ expectations- as if that will eliminate mistakes that harden thinking and soften flesh — — so says the gospel of parents swinging belts.
I have never beat my kids except for lecturing good eating habits and doing the opposite.
I teach the discipline to work and exercise. To keep bodies and minds improving- moving away from the sympathy of success-thinking you are a tragedy if you don’t have the same experience-because chasing another man’s dream makes yours die violently-overdosing on potential and grief.
So…
Yes…
I encourage my kids not to be fat. More importantly, I encourage them to be in shape. Healthy enough to recover from mistakes and regret.
Some might scream hypocrisy and patriarchy. The irony is they wish for a father like me… A man raising sons and daughters to know and believe the power of their mind's bodies and sex.
A man raising sons and daughters to educate themselves to gain power and respect.
DOMINATE
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LOOK!
Look into your future. Look in your eyes. The guidance inside, don’t blink at the fear.
Look with confidence. Stare it down and away. Watch how it moves as it adjusts lust forms. It will always show in a way of warm feelings. The feeling before business is handled with a woman you want to give trouble. It will show a light promoting lies and truth, making you want to chase and lay in its ease. That’s the sucker’s tease. My East coast Brethren would say pause… and you should or else you will suck at life and kneel to create another’s dreams. Go be an Outkast and get up, get out, and get the life you want.
Dominate like the fire of hate & the wind of love.
The dance of the two make peace. Sway, spin and sweat-dominate personal ignorance and regret, and make failure cease. You know the price. Elevate your mind, improve your health, or make your body pay for your life. Change, make sense, cash in your pain. That’s the only way to make it.
Keep your Integrity-even if you lie. Tie it together with truth.
We’re all flawed. Work on yours, with honesty and show respect to those you love. Excuse their mistakes like the strangers you work for- the ones you wake up and pretend don’t make you feel like a whore.
Who and what memories are influencing you to dominate?
Who and what memories are influencing you to be dominated by failure?
To all the fathers wondering how the F!!k do I do this… My advice is just don’t pull out!
THE PARADOX OF FATHERHOOD
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The moment I relinquished resentment, that as a father, my future was not just about me, I was comforted with kindness that makes men find strength in love instead of a crippling tenderness that begs for the return of love given.
I pray standing up. That’s the only direction for my life, thoughts and worth. It brings me peace. I don’t care who it offends.
Do anything for the kids and their mother. Cherish the quiet without them. Then fill the silence with their names as a reminder to be a good man with a dirty mind that sees more than trouble and clean hands to mold a better future from struggle.
Bag a mother like none other, open her up toss her around to make sure she’s useful. I miss and no longer have my own, so when she reminds of hers my heart feels cold-because that’s not who I chose.
Make sure she’s a fun free spirit, encourage her to hold onto it, because responsibility ages like the brittle bones of a bed ridden ghost. I don’t wanna fuck nothing flat and brittle.
Desire to protect. Sometimes, to wreck what’s solid and beautiful so we can relate to flaws. Crush what you hold to prove your love controls.
Show your children pain without quit-and how to adjust to handle and avoid it. Life can be one but they can’t go out like a bitch. That lesson is how they get lasting pleasure instead of moments of happiness.
Testosterone Tone, Hard to the core.
Strong enough to raise up sons to shine as men. Gentle enough to raise daughters to beam with warmth and a force the world desires.
Teach them to know their worth and to shine like heavens gates. Think and believe in themselves. Sometimes they have to be selfish to understand how to give. Everyone needs a-little help. Self-reliance is the most powerful defiance.
A narrow focus can penetrate obstacles like a razor or a lazor. Whatever your precision- decide!
See what people are made of and their habit-forming behaviors-the same ones that formed you and your opinions-make you open to endings.
To all the Fathers wondering how the fuck do I do this?
My advice is, just don’t pull out.
The Fatherhood State Of Mind
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Fathers!
Put yourself first to improve your family’s confidence and value. Especially if you have a daughter. Raise them gentle, strong, and powerful like the earth.
If you have a son, make sure they shine like one-(I got that from WU-TANG).
Fathers should only bow to love. Their ambition should always rise above.
Never turn off. Fathers need to stay on. Brighten their home with the dreams and hope children struggle with, and fight to keep when they are alone.
Use discipline to love and guide. With hands, words and a mentality that doesn’t callous or hurt.
-And remember, for the fathers wondering “how the f!!k do I do this”—-My advice is just don’t pull out!-
DAD Thera-P_Y
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How do you quiet the negativity when it’s the loudest thing in your life and environment?
Some might say just remove yourself. That makes me think of Wu-TANG, when they asked, “can it be all so simple?” Not when it’s so deeply rooted like an S.T.D. that it becomes a natural part of you-don’t notice the rot and poison until your love and possibly family move lifeless.
Breaking free requires selfishness.
Selfishness is a tricky topic, and how you breathe life into success. Everyone swears by self-sacrifice, self-love, self-knowledge, self-respect. But when actions don’t match beliefs-you begin and prolong a life of fuckery at best.
Reverse engineer selfishness. Positive selfishness brings self-improvement.
Every successful person utilized selfishness to achieve dream success. Everyone knows how to be selfish in a harmful way. Thoughts, actions, beliefs, people, energy used to harm and damage yourself and relationships can all be shaped to create a better life.
Part 2- Cuming soon-NOT FOR PRUDE
Come in.
Let me show you around.
A.T.M. is how I cash out.
The act is discreet. The pleasure you recover is loud.
To all the fathers wondering how the fuck do I do this-my advice is- JUST DON’T PULL OUT!