BUILDING BRIDGES & BEING PRESENT
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THE FATHERHOOD EXPERIMENT: A Newsletter for FATHER’S
This week is about building bridges and being present.
More power to the men owning and recovering from their sins. Fighting so their kids can see and believe their life is a blessing.
Watch how you show up!
Watch when you show up!
Don’t just be there!
It’s all about your presence! A positive productive one helps you build bridges.
The Power of Presence
Nipsey Hussle said “you know how kids spell love?--- TIME!”
In a world full of distractions, video games, porn, Anti and social media, kids may get excited about the gifts, but when they get bored, and they always do, they tell you. That means they want to spend time with you, so put down the alcohol, weed, phone, video games, food, and women you can’t afford to keep using. Go! spend time with them so they don't end up being a user too.
For the high minded that need to hear shit twice, being present ain’t presenting a gift for your child to open so you can disappear. Deadbeat dads have a powerful lingering spirit.
Here's some tips how Fathers Can Be Present and Build Bridges
The proper term is called Active Listening: As a father who likes to keep the truth simple, I recite the “you got two ears, two eyes and one mouth” to help you figure out--- what their mood is saying? What their face is saying? What is their body language saying? What are their eyes saying?
Are they off, avoidant, turning away like they want you to shut the fuck up? Good… If that’s the only lesson you learn from this, you have the beginning of a sturdy bridge so you can be present.
Spending Quality Time: This IS NOT about what you want your child to improve, unless that’s what they ask you!
Soooo...
Be Present in the Moment: Laugh with them and (gently) at them. Talk with them, not at them. Sit and chill with them, listen to their heart and headache music. You might learn what’s guiding their decisions, along with any unwanted presence.
Being is present father is planting good soil. It's different than dirt. It’s the DNA of God's work, unlike preaching judas word, and killing their ambition.
You won’t always agree with their growth. Try to nurture a different direction, instead of the version of perfection you never reached. Spread some good words that leave them feeling loved and heard instead of hurt.
Dad Joke.
What did the man say to the asshole kid, who said, "I don’t need to listen to you! You ain’t my dad?"
He said-"That’s right, I’m your motherfucker!" (My mother dated a few men I didn't get along with after my father split.) I ended up being cool with one of them. (He was an ex-con, I was a young'n, creating beef and made him the man I hated more than my pops.) Then I grew up, had children of my own and grew to love and respect both of them.
Music I’m Enjoying (Both Full Albums are Dope)
Song: Underestimated by 38 Spesh (feat Benny The Butcher & Che Noir)-Full Album is Mother & Gun
Song: Once A Man Twice A Child by NAS-Full album is Kings Disease III
Book’s I’m Studying
THE BIBLE
THE QURAN
Books I’m Reading (I’m a writer so I’m studying these too!)
TROUBLE IS WHAT I DO by Walter Mosley
FROM MAN TO SUPERMAN by J.A. Rogers
Newsletter I'm studying "5 Bullet Friday" by Tim Ferris
Movie Recommendation
O.G. (starring Jeffrey Wright) (2018)
To All the Father's wondering "HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?"
My advice is "JUST DON'T PULL OUT!"
