THE RECIPE
Image from Pinterest (Raekwon The Chef)
THE FATHERHOOD EXPERIMENT: A Newsletter for fathers
We know what we want to make out of Fatherhood.
We know what we want to make out of our Children.
What you need to know is...
What do your children desire? They will figure out how to get it soon as you leave. Don't allow the poison of deception to be any part of your relationship's ingredient.
What are YOU made of?
Good N' Plenty of what makes people not want to bother me. Also, what allows family to enjoy a serious man's company.
I’m made of everything that makes eyes sparkle and cry. I’ve been fucked up and rotten enough to press my luck but never took a label that would keep me stuck that way.
Only Be Sweet To The Women In Your Family.
I have no bitterness. I know what it's like playing with fire to feed your family. Nighttime chefs providing dough to those in need. Baby boys and girls holding the flame, so they don’t turn butter for bread. I've seen tears dehydrate and become water for those struggling to keep going. Remember to keep your cool and keep your head.
This recipe is full of flavorful notes on how to love, succeed and live long.
The First Ingredient Is To Know Thyself: Are you a leader, or a follower. You will be both at different points. Accept each. Do your best while in position. It attracts success to your ambition.
Man's mind is an economy. Learn to earn and be your own assistance so you can make yourself the difference.
Respect: Self-first. Don’t allow any fool to create distance.
Peace: It comes with doubt cloaked in war and pain. Agonizing over decisions, thinking your next move has to be perfect or life ain't worth living. Peace will seem like an illusion if you don't figure out what it means, looks like and feels like to you.
Exercise: Violently. Laziness is the enemy! Don't take what’s coming lightly. Being unprepared is a burden so heavy, most don’t come up from under the weight.
Happiness: These moments come and go like every good and bad thing in life. The secret is which one you focus on- not only while you experience them- but also after they are gone. That will determine which direction you move.
Violence: Be careful with it. Be active against it. Let me be clear, I’m not telling parents or children to become violent. I AM telling you to be aware of it. You may not like it, but It is a world popular ingredient. A Man, A Father, must stand for protecting and providing for his family, or they all will fall to and for everyone and everything.
The great, wise, honorable Malcolm X said, “If you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything!”
Consequences: Must make you serious. When you take them as a joke, you become one- standing still and extending the distance between what you want and what you haven’t achieved.
The goal is to provide what you need, celebrate achieving what you want- and be at peace with the failure you never allowed yourself to become.
Dad Joke.
Is that a mirror in your pocket? Because I can see myself in your pants.
Music I’m Enjoying We Live In Brooklyn Baby (Roy Ayers)
Book’s I’m Studying (The Holy Ones)
THE BIBLE
THE QURAN
Book I’m Reading (I’m a writer so I’m studying this too)
AESOPS FABLES
Movie I Recommend
A Bronx Tale (1993)
Repeat what works!
The recipe’s main ingredient should always be love. If that makes someone act distasteful, find a new kitchen.
To all the Father's wondering "HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?"
My advice is Just Don't Pull Out!
