JOY & PAIN/ NEW BEGINNINGS
WELCOME TO THE FATHERHOOD EXPERIMENT!
This edition is regaining love in your relationship!
First let's talk about endings.
When is the relationship over?
Is it when you see your love start to do the things you did when you were unhappy?
Close Distancing
Same house different rooms. Asking for closure with confusing language because you're so mad & annoyed at everything, the only understanding your words allow is anger-because you want them to feel in danger.
Being mean on purpose like the asshole who tries to make everyone else be the piece of shit because he wont take responsibility for ANYTHING! Or, the bitch who tries to make everyone bend to her will.
I've never bent to anyone's will, except for my past temptation. I've outlasted & moved past them.
Giving in to anger in relationships influences those temptations to reach out & catch you slippin'. Makes your heart and spirit pound with hurt & damaging memories until you stop fighting for your love & begin fighting for its destruction.
Cliche "The hard thing is the right thing."
For parenting and loving relationships (in my case marriage)-this is always asking what's going on. Then taking the answer with love and responding in that imaginary, nearly impossible tone of always bringing love closer.
When family answers "NOTHING!" to make you seem paranoid & crazy- remain calm, remember to-say what you see. Beware... It may turn into a statement of blame.
"That's You Not Me!"
In loving relationships there is no just you or just me. It's You & Me. So, it's always We & US.
When love is allowed to separate; choosing sides of anyone other than home is the beginning of the end.
BEGIN
When you feel that anger & frustration that makes you want to isolate- push forward like the days you were first attracted & trying to get up in those draws, allowing nothing to be wrong, thinking everything was cute & unworthy of anger- even stinky farts. Now you're doing everything to cover up the stench of regret.
Begin by helping them see their importance & worth because the world & its work will make them see, feel, & want opposite of what their love is offering.
CAN YOU BEGIN LOVE AGAIN?
In a relationship where the feeling is ending, think about suffering. Its a strange request but you will naturally think about suffering less. Think who you want to suffer less with. I guarantee it's the family you have. Remember those moments & feelings of happiness.
Pleasure and suffering leave evidence. You choose which to build life and love on.
BEGIN Each day allowing yourself to fight for love.
Live each day being honest about what's making you sad & making you happy.
BEGIN With a happy ending to the day in mind & if you feel your love wake up different-Fuck until she changes hers!
The joy you get when you have courage to begin again is always better than pain of letting love end.
Dad Joke.
What’s the difference between light and hard?
It’s easier to fall asleep with a light on
Music I’m Enjoying:
Frankie Beverly & MAZE
I've listened to Happy Feelings (remastered version) every morning and every evening drive home since the new year began.
Book’s I’m Studying (The Holy Ones)
THE BIBLE
THE Bhagavad Gita
Book I’m Still Reading (I’m a writer so I’m studying these too)
NIGGER by Dick Gregory
To all the Fathers wondering "HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?"
My advice is Just Don't Pull Out!
SACRED LOVE
NEW YOU! SAME Ol’ Dark Times!
Trying to regain and keep the spark?
Sing the song of love.
Sometimes that involves hate-when you hold onto to things you need to let go. Father’s are the spirit of their family. That scary being used as a memory to frighten and encourage.
The god in you should always seek the god in your family.
Say good words to yourself, especially when you ain’t getting them from ones who need yours. Family seeks hate sometimes, when you haven't taught them to love themselves.
Nurture emotion. Plant ideas like a botanist. Discover what they desire to make good emotions bloom. Also, to create what they need because they can't live spoiled on what they want.
-Greed and impulse give people what they deserve. Sit your family down and analyze decisions, nerves and emotions to see the drawbacks and benefits. Look at how ya'll react in similar situations because old problems present new ways to steal attention.
Be too selfish to leave. Step away to get yourself right or get out of the way when you only find something wrong. Create a runway to a loving home instead of a path to get lost.
-Venting has to be two sided. Talk through the anger instead of holding grudges, or you'll get stuck looking at each other thinking stranger-danger & who the hell is this person & where is the one I love?
Cherish the nights of wolvish thoughts, when you would rather be alone. Leaders of the family are always under attack. Feeling like your best is never enough, and your worst is what they’ve been waiting for to use as an advantage.
-Show them more than pain to feel alive. Be cheesy and speak on the good times as they're happening. We're too quick to let happy feeling die. Chasing next time makes love run dry without crying.
Laugh more, even if you have to force it. Beware when you do. You may need to cry in silence to reveal what you thought you buried. And discover you carry tragedy like the pounds weighing you down because you never smile.
New year Song of Love
Keeping it new ain’t easy! The harder the better. (She said she likes a clever motherfucker!)
We love to pimp indifference.
Need to be a better richer man, so the kids never have to depend on another.
So, the miss remains a freak and keeps you-only- deep in those cheeks. Solve the mystery of making the old become new. Karma is a seductress and screws until you're stripped from relationships you cherish.
Can’t be a bystander when good love gets out of hand. Ain’t nothing rosy about pulling on heart strings full of startling, memories.
it's an everyday struggle, when love doesn't feel like enough because we never let it be more. Comparing it to before makes us an afterthought.
You thought saying I love you was enough!
That’s a thing that never was, like being honest when your body ain’t allowing those jeans so you take them off and tell me to come work you out.
I’m a little off in my head-needs a-lot of warmth, licks, strokes and caresses. Just don’t make it ache, cause we’re full of temptatioooon…. Won’t allow sin to be my sensatioooon… I’ll just fuck you right, so I don’t do wrong and let out my frustraaaatioooons!
I'll give you kindness if you give paaaatieeeence!
Dad Joke.
What's the difference between a hooker & a drug dealer?
The hooker can wash her crack & resell it.
Music I’m Enjoying:
Red Leather by Future & Metro Boomin ft J. Cole.
This Sunday by future & Metro Boomin
Book’s I’m Studying (The Holy Ones)
THE BIBLE
THE QURAN
Book I’m Reading (I’m a writer so I’m studying these too)
NIGGER by Dick Gregory
To all the Fathers wondering "HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?"
My advice is Just Don't Pull Out!
FABLES
Ever wonder how to stay good, in your soul? When you're exhausted. Working longer hours for those who think you're replaceable, than you spend at home, raising kids who are starting to resemble their mother more than manly ways you know they will need to provide and protect.
"If you're scared to take chances, you'll never have the answers."-Nas
Don't be entertained by the fables.
Fairy tales aint for men, we like real women. We make our life happen. We prefer women who trap us with positivity and look at setbacks as reminders of what we are working to accomplish.
This type of talk is considered explicit. I avoid bulIshit. I didn't swear in front of my children until the world tried to brainwash them.
You can be whatever you want... Until that version of you stops working-mostly because it doesn't align with your morals. If you have to force the fit, that ain't the style for you to live.
You have to be the alpha and the leader; Nope... It's enough to let silence talk. To step aside to see the choice someone wants. Loud, ruckus never makes a dedicated person change their mind. know where you stand so you don't follow someone to dead ends.
Sometimes Villains are the good guys. Your family may not always think so when you expose flaws they hide behind. So, they can't be the hero in their story of excuses.
Patience is a virtue... Only when you're not waiting for change.
Father's, teach your children to work harder on their dreams than slaving for pennies.
Being scared, safe, docile, and broke is the cost of failing your offspring. Moral ambition turns love back on. It gives us something to carry other than wishing we were different, and perhaps the hero on their present wish list. Your kids will see and appreciate pouring more into their life than the women you made plan b to avoid more responsibility.
Give your children something to aim for besides sex and drugs. The entertainment vice for aging addicts cozying up to everything that smokes, so they don't face lost hope and disgrace.
Father's... Give your family more than moments of excitement and forgiveness, from hugs, apologies or buying that thing you've been promising to hold their love hostage- so they believe they are more than a memory. That teaches them to be happy with the price a man sets on love.
Children need to know, their worth is determined by discipline and morals.
Dad Joke.
"Why do chickens wear underwear on their head? Because their pecker is on their face."
—u/Wellalrightman
Music I’m Enjoying
Song: "Rollin" by The Dungeon Family.
Book’s I’m Studying (The Holy Ones)
THE BIBLE
Book I’m still reading (I’m a writer so I’m studying this too)
NIGGER by DICK GREGORY
To all the Fathers wondering "HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS"? My advice is Just Don't Pull Out!
THE GAMBLER
How Father’s Gamble Away Their Loves Savings.
Go play the slots in dark rooms full of strangers multiplying their misery. With each passing hour, lonely children and tired mothers, wishing, hoping and praying their love was enough to cash in their father’s time.
You believe family concern slows earnings.
Morning brings anxiety and reminders of wasted talent and life. You turn abusive to pretend you're not folding. The majority of moments are spent fixing how you see your children, because they spend their most vulnerable moments suffering. And someone has to own their predicament and costly decisions.
An irresponsible man needs to feel freedom from his own ruin.
It takes a poor, broken man to lie and deceive his family and never own up to his responsibility.
How to Hit the Jackpot.
Cash in when your children show you what they want. When they are asking you a ton of questions; play like you are trying to help them win instead of beating them away with aggravation.
Have the sense to know when to stop forcing your schemes on childish minds, eager to please and take everything you give.
A father’s happiness is what children think makes the family rich, especially when mom feels happy and loved, so home and family feel like it's something to be cherished.
Show them a man is rewarded from who and what he spends the most time on.
Go All In.
When you want to be left alone, take care of home first. Give family positive attention.
Give your lady a good hand, out of her clothes. Serve the cocktail pleasing to her lips, hips and spirit. Then go spend that time needed to improve yourself as a man.
Don’t bluff. Don’t hesitate. Play the game every way that sets your family straight.
Fathers know the value of stability. Sitting at the table, breaking daily bread with family.
Dad Joke.
Why does Santa Claus have such a big sack?
He only comes once a year.
Music I’m Enjoying
Jim Jones Song: Harlem
Book’s I’m Studying (The Holy Ones)
THE BIBLE
Book I’m Reading (I’m a writer so I’m studying these too)
NIGGER by Dick Gregory
To All The Father’s Wondering “HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS”? My advice is Just Don’t Pull Out!
THE TRAUMA REPORT
The Fatherhood Experiment's Weely Newsletter
SUBTLE WAYS TO HEAL TRAUMA BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR CHILD
Troubles and ignorance live on through your children. So spread truth rather than feelings.
SUBTLE WAYS TO HEAL TRAUMA BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR CHILD
When children fight to win a loser's game-chasing failure and expecting success-thinking and behaving as if their future is based on a gamble they never have to pay for.
Then... When every conversation, and every interaction feels like a fight to save your way of life.
Challenge them with empathy and gentle questions, instead of aggression.
What changes do they want and are they willing to make?
Did they get the results they wanted? or the results they accepted!
Don't give in!
When kids blame and argue-a resistance forcing you to feel like giving in because you're tired and they have the verbal energy of child touting their favorite swear words with friends, free to burn parents discipline with fiery tongues.
You have too much love and pride to be weakened, so you try silence, hoping the shit your child keeps repeating, finally leaves such a bad taste they will stop, shut up and possibly listen or even better-pay attention long enough to lessen the pain they keep putting themselves, and you through.
Stop Fighting the Help.
Children show us when they're struggling, then parents fight them for their own personal beliefs and needs instead of working to understand our children's and supporting them.
Trauma makes us all feel like we want something different. And someone to know we need help without broadcasting our pain or feeling like we are a burden causing more suffering.
We will always have trauma.
Here is how you heal and use it for your benefit.
Release blame; think of how im-perfect your childhood thoughts and behavior were, and the mistakes you believed your parents made. how many of those have you made?
Be Patient. Nobody has it all figured out.
Listen- to wants and pay attention to needs.
Stay willing-to give and receive.
Remain forgiving.
Apologize.
Keep your love healing.
Dad Joke.
Did you butt dial me?
I swear your booty is calling me.
Music I’m Enjoying
GNX album by Kendric Lamar
Book’s I’m Studying (The Holy Ones)
THE BIBLE
THE BHAGAVAD GITA
To all the Father's wondering "HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?
My advice is Just Don't Pull Out!
IRRATIONAL
THE FATHERHOOD EXPERIMENT: A Newsletter for fathers
This week is about irrational thoughts and beliefs
Irrational beliefs can build or destroy families.
Do whatever it takes to keep your relationships solid without emotionally becoming a rock. Throwing your kids off because you want to get away and you want them too... Knock off the stupid shit that makes life stink. Everywhere they go, marking territories with lies and problems they blame on everyone else to solve them.
People wonder how a father can give advice to never have kids.
If that’s the only thing you get from our conversations, you already had doubts and just wanted someone, anyone to confirm your belief.
Fatherhood requires a selfishness everyone won't understand and ain't built for- because the self-less-ness it comes with feels like a whore's trap. A-lot of days you feel fucked and stuck, picking up the peace after your family keeps giving it up.
When your son makes you so mad you feel like it would be easier to punch him, hurt him, to do anything except console him, but you decided to be the exception and never make an enemy out of family especially your children. So, you hug him, show him you love him, care about him and more importantly respect him, because with all the loss in life you never want him to lose trust in your relationship.
It's hard being a parent because children believe they are better adults than those raising them. They try hard to break rules and put less effort into repairing damage. That attitude invests more means to an end and gives thoughts of abandon.
Sometimes You need to show them you are as foolish as they believe. Show them their behavior causes grief and nerves to break. They should see the beginnings of how the bad break down. Throw away all their toys and prized belongings-so they know the consequences of remaining broke, while pretending to be sorry. Mostly- they need to know you aint playing around.
The thought of burying them alive so they can be safe from the harm they cause seems like a great idea. Maybe they will find peace and come out less crazy and chaotic. Scared straight was never the plan, neither was turning on the hands providing what they haven't and at their age can’t.
Exhaust yourself to give them everything they want. It’s the version of love you were hooked on from the moment you went raw. Then remember, spoiled kids are worse than chlamydia.
Wish for them to have kids so they can experience the suffering they cause. Also wish for them not to because you think that revenge will fall back on you -and- spoiled grandchildren are as NaugThy By Nature would say "are the craziest." Plus, not being able to have kids can feel like Gods got something against you.
The exhaustion of thinking ahead to protect your children is the reason you are bald. But they think it’s because you’re old.
When your kids start thinking drugs and alcohol might be cool. Teach them that aging healthy is the drug that never gets old. That’s what they really want anyway-to escape youth, without being too old to seem or have fun.
Sit’em down and let’em have that taste.
Everyone needs to know the feeling of a life wasted. They already think they know the pool of despair- full of worries and cares for nothing that will matter after their trends end.
Life without health feels like addiction. And I don’t care what drugs are legal, no parent or child wants to care for a user and abuser.
Kick the habit of being nice.
If you’re mean, you will war, and rage against paid rent and happiness, because tension allows hate in the building. Similar to everyone choosing to remain ignorant, children think being nice makes you a fool, while they follow the trend of being taken advantage of to seem cool.
Thats why children need tough love. Show them you care, but you ain't carefree.
Be careful enough to discipline them and your own bias so you can get the best out of life while living.
Dad joke
What does a robot do after a one-night stand?
He nuts and bolts.
Music I’m Enjoying
Song: Commission by SHYNE
Book’s I’m Studying (The Holy Ones)
THE BIBLE
THE QURAN
Movie I Recommend
Life of Pi
To all the Fathers wondering "HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?"
My advice is Just Don't Pull Out!
PAIN POINTS
THE FATHERHOOD EXPERIMENT: A Newsletter for fathers
Pain makes you unrecognizable. It also makes you understand, and less agreeable because you know what it takes to make it through. It makes you take less from others and let more of your own go.
Don't hold onto more than you need. I'm old enough to know, nobody needs pain. We need healing.
Why is it that we can recognize, address, peacefully and calmly try to fix addict behavior in everyone except ourselves and our kids?
How scary is it that for a slight moment we would rather those traits be caused from drugs and alcohol, than laziness, bad habits, repeating mistakes, and lack of self-accountability!
You ever just think Jesus-fucking Christ, and feel like you fucked the wrong people to raise kids that don't seem to give a fuck about anything they do wrong because they just want to feel right? Then you think, what type of God dammed prayer did I screw up?
The pain everyone knows is there, but they ignore it, usually comes from focusing on outside influences that only bring negative ways of understanding yourself, and the truth, so negativity becomes the new normal.
What we need is to clear the air to see a necessary, positive reality. That only happens when we realize our pov isn't the only way to see and create.
Normal should be... Conversations where everyone can express their thoughts and opinions respectfully. Thats where it gets tricky because everyone's version of respect is different.
The right way to respect is to speak without an aggression aimed to hurt or humble. The simple way is to let you know I disagree; and I believe my opinion is right without making you feel wrong and wronged.
FORGIVENESS
One of the hardest things to do is forgive, because you have to think about what you did to contribute to the problem, and if all you care about is being right and forgiven, a sad angry life is all you will get. And you won't even be able to forgive yourself.
BLAME
Blame is too often used as motivation to keep yourself angry and keep the problem going. That's when forgiveness feels like being humbled, and like you're showing weakness.
Blame is useless because it holds you hostage.
Forgive, let go of the blame. Live a life that influences less pain and more healing.
Dad Joke.
What does a hot dog use for protection? Condoments.
Music I’m Enjoying
Hippie Sabotage-No Judgement.
Book’s I’m Studying (The Holy Ones)
THE BIBLE
THE QURAN
Book I’m Reading
Money Master The Game by Tony Robbins
Life
Eddie Murphy & Martin Lawrence
It's painful when you want to ease everyone-else's, but they want everyone to feel theirs!
To all the Father's wondering "HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?"
My advice is Just Don't Pull Out!
THE FALL
Image from pinterest
THE FATHERHOOD EXPERIMENT: A Newsletter for fathers
Every year, every month, every season, every day, every hour, every minute, every second has a crunch time. When you work smart on the hard things, you won’t fall under the pressure.
You ever ask someone what their goals are, and they hesitate, give you a long-winded talk as you watch them mentally work through excuses of why they haven’t accomplished their goals yet. Or worse, they take offense and make it seem like you’re questioning their worth or intelligence?
That’s the veil or curtain falling. They are playing out failures in their head and why they fall short. And the truth they see is terrifying. They're reminded that they keep reaching for excuses and your question made them see it all clearly.
Father’s! This will be a struggle with your kids. Whether you are rich or poor.
First--- recognize the richness in being able to have conversations with your children.
Second--- the poor mentality and habits come from what has been allowed by you. Everyone fights to keep their comforts. When you become comfortable working hard on the wrong things you’re choosing to live hard.
What are those hard things?
Relationship struggles. If you’re lying or withholding the truth, your relationships will struggle. Nobody is always going to like to hear the truth, but they will respect it and you both will be better off. However, if you are telling the truth to purposely hurt someone, or to get yourself out of trouble, you will hurt yourself while destroying relationships.
Other hard things are, the usual---being fat, lazy, out of shape, eating junk food all the time, filling your house with junk food. Filling your mind with junk shows and information, while the only exercise you do is move your mouth to blame, complain and eat more- then wonder why you are unhealthy and sweat from the stress of deciding to keep yourself fat.
All your choice.
Back to working hard… When you work hard on the right things, being and making your loved ones happy become easier.
Earning your dream life also becomes easier.
I struggle to say you will always go through hard times because I believe those are just situations that come with working hard on the right things-like having to sweat to stay in shape. You will feel some hurt, and unwanted emotions. These are benefits of being honest and having good relationships.
What Are You Falling For?
Thinking tomorrow will be better, but are acting the same, doing the same, and believing the same negative things making you always want something better than the same dismal position you're in.
How can you think great, but believe failure? Because you haven't realized your actions help manifest your blessing. If you act out a belief long enough, that is all you see-so you might as well act in ways to improve your life.
I ain’t telling you nothing new. Just like all the advice you got from parents, relatives, friends, teachers and bosses who warned you about the same things.
It's similar to the region-beta paradox. (I call it the The paradox of the comfort zone;)
You'll jump (towards change/success) if you can still walk after vs you won't jump if you have to stay down for a while and feel like everyone will notice. This means most people would be better off in a terrible situation rather than a tolerable situation, because the tolerable situation allows a discomfort and failure you can mask as comfort, or even worse- resilience.
We all need people who don’t accept lazy, undisciplined behavior, who will help you, but also separate themselves if you continue to purposely fall because you don't fix your thoughts, and actions. This scenario should influence you to adjust and move towards ascension and success instead of falling for permanent failure. We also need to be that person in our own lives!
What you need to remember is that you are always hurt after a fall, whether you fall towards failure or success, (with the right mindset, one will lead to the other) Something in you changes. You walk different. Everyone sees. Dreams change. Belief changes. Life changes for the better.
You change. It all depends on which version of yourself you decide to fall for.
Don’t fall for easy money.
Don’t fall for easy pussy.
Don’t fall for easy work.
Don’t fall for the illusion of an easy life.
You have to make the hard choices to fall towards success and reach it- if that’s the life you desire
Don’t fall for easy relationships.
Also don’t fall for challenging relationships. If you have to work so hard to make other people happy or respect you that you're exhausted and don’t have time for yourself-you’re getting fucked out of your money, pussy, relationships, sanity, success, and being true to yourself.
Fuck That!
Dad Joke.
Why do women like Michael Vick
Because he kills it Doggystyle!
Music I’m Enjoying
OutKast-Claimin' True https://youtu.be/FSbNTNl0VhI?si=XCOHJZqY7tx-dfKP
Book’s I’m Studying (The Holy Ones)
THE BIBLE
THE QURAN
Book I’m Reading (I’m a writer so I’m studying these too)
Secrets of the Federal Reserve by Eustace Mullins
Movie I Recommend
Sugar Hill (1994, with Wesley Snipes)
To all the Father’s wondering “HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?”
My advice is Just don’t pull out!
Clip of the region-beta-paradox
BALANCIN-& BUDGETING A FATHERS LIFE
WELCOME TO THE FATHERHOOD EXPERIMENT NEWSLETTER
Rich Dad vs Poor Dad
Rich Dad vs Cool Dad
Which one are you?
For love or money, it's a man's duty to earn and provide both for his family.
This morning, I was reminded of something important. My son woke up and told me he loved me before I walked out the door.
I was grateful, we have reasons to live, but if you've been broke or poor you know more is necessary to keep bank accounts and families full.
Father's! You owe it to your children to handle your business. They don’t owe you for living. They didn’t bring themselves into the messy world you created.
Finances are Sexy
(Which is easier to discuss, finances or sex?)
They both are about creating, believing and understanding your worth
Talking about sex can be easy. As a father- at some point you figure women out.
I told my kids-"babies come from a penis doing pushups inside a vagina until it throws up."
My wife said “what the fuck!”
Was I wrong? Fuck NO!
I also told my daughter not to wear skirts or dresses to movie theaters or on dates while she was young. Because boys finger fuck and sniff to predict if it's a hit or miss.
Daughters should take their time. Rushing is what fools and whores do, and they always end up being taken advantage of.
I also told my sons to take their time.
The only oats boys need to worry about are cooked on a stove. Spooning too many females drains their primal focus-an important ingredient for men not to become suckers and jokes.
Porn, although awkward is also fairly easy to discuss. Don't embarrass them. it's natural to be curious.
What's hard-(No pause needed, or pun intended)- is screwing finances without pleasure for your entire life. Now that I think about it, it has to be easier than I thought because I kept doing it. That happens when you don't weigh your options.
So here we are. Learning to budget finances, along with emotions.
The psychology surrounding money keeps fathers acting like broke-minded athletes who can't wait to leave pussy smoking. Hustling backwards, paying the highest price to be dope.
Learn to earn.
It starts off feeling like a burden because labor is your initial worth.
The oldest and best scheme is believing you can get rich quick. That’s like saying Kobe only became great by simply copying how Jordan played. You don’t see the fails, struggles, airballs as a rookie, working through injury, doubt, depression when the world that once cheered, turned against him. Extra strength training. Extra studying. Extra practices. The courage to be disliked-using hard work to correct what he did wrong, making it easy to do it right—then doing it all over again, every day, consistently makes less focused and lazy people an enemy.
That gives the confidence to believe you deserve to earn what your worth.
Pay close attention to who and what gets yours.
Money is the woman you always wanted. If you don't pay attention to how she's handled, she'll slide any grip you had to another man.
Believe your worth more than your doubts.
When your children doubt you without testing a theory other than disagreeing, it's because they don't see any sign that you understand money. They're scared of going against proof that you have zero clue about creating and financing a successful future for yourself or them. They're scared to be the type of wrong they see you are.
Discuss what you did wrong. Show them you own your mistakes and actually correct them.
They say mistakes don't make the man but if you keep yourself ignorant by refusing to correct them, you remain broke on purpose. (Make that make sense)
Also, don’t judge for the same mistakes you made when trying to profit. You know where they learned it! Guide them to see the difference between poor habits (banking on negativity and emotional spending-buying what you feel you need). And rich habits of paying for what creates and sustains knowledge and profits.
Don’t Ignore facts, and truth unless you desire to raise poor disciples.
A father may not get the trust if he's not rich. Thats when he has to make moves like riches are the person, he's trying to make regret breaking his heart.
A father becomes a rich man by building trust in himself through understanding the cost of being undisciplined.
A father becomes cool when he executes his plans to make himself and family whole.
I’ve lived a life of being inconsistent with my goals and struggled until my 40’s. Now I’m a thriving writer and work hard helping teens, adults, and veterans who sacrificed everything for the country, government, state, and city that fights to keep them sick. The people who can’t afford healthy insurance (Yeah, you read that right-think about it)-and I’m one of them. Like I already said, I’m budgeting my finances, health, and sanity.
Compound Good Memories.
Cut options and opportunities allowing you to enjoy and excuse laziness, through body, money, and mind-illness.
I remember when my daughter was 5 and we were at the park, pretending to sail across the world on the playgrounds ship. She said “Daddy if you want to be happy, always do the right thing”
She’s 20 now.
Kids sense when something’s wrong and I was unhappy because I was too broke to be spending time at the park, having fun with my angel. Sadness becomes a father's God when he can't enjoy precious moments. And instead of listening to her back then I continued acting like I was immune to sin.
The worst moral sin a father can commit is having childish finances as a grown man, so your child has to depend on another hand and the government.
Intention
Empower your family.
Remember to empower yourself.
Learn the value of credit. It's your social and financial allowance. Gained through hard, honest, smart work. And if you are dishonest, you better own the hurt. A good reputation will keep you on the inside track so you can be the first to know where and how to profit.
Move with all intentions on honest progress. This seems like a no brainer, but if it was, we wouldn’t be stuck celebrating things that keep us fucked.
Focusing on sex when you are young leads to investing in the wrong person and robs the energy to achieve your dreams.
Dad Joke.
What did the man say to the asshole kid, who didn’t want to listen and said, I don’t need to listen to you! You ain’t my dad?
He said-That’s right, I’m your motherfucker.
Music I’m Enjoying
Killer Mike (Michael)
Books I’m Studying
The Kabbalah
MONEY-MASTER THE GAME (TONY ROBBINS)
Movie I Recommend
Coming To America (1988 with Eddie Murphy)
Podcasts for Fathers about Finance and Improvement
Market Mondays (by Earn Your Leisure)
Wall Street Trapper
The Come-Up Series
High Level Conversations (by 19 Keys)
The Budgetnista
HOW BOYS GET LOST & FATHERS FIND THEM
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THE FATHERHOOD EXPERIMENT: A Newsletter for fathers
Boys get lost when...
They see truth as an attack. Change routines for a day and believe it ends bad habits.
They seek unhealthy influence because they didn't have proof that good one's win.
Actions up to now represent your DNA lineage, after a certain age you choose pain or suffering.
Fathers!
They need knowledge promoting critical thinking, better outlets and messaging. That doesn’t happen when you deny the history of your decisions.
Boys get lost when...
Therapy becomes violence and a main substance to lessen the pain their consuming. Some choose natural remedies. Some nurture separation from reality and family.
We all pick and choose who and what to listen to. The ignorant ones are loudest because they make trouble look cool.
Boys get lost when...
The preferred voice tells them to struggle hard, to father themselves and gain wisdom from a school ruled by law breakers. They know 2 wrongs don’t make it right but take the right to ruin a life and live on dead ends.
Armed with ammunition to change. But forcing a way through, wounding yourself to prove a point. Lessons don’t need to be written in blood or broken trust. After it spills ain’t the time to have a conversation. Pay back respect before you owe condolences.
Boys get lost & Fathers find them when...
Fighting to protect and preserve a dream that hasn’t come true yet. Belief turns to doubt because they haven’t achieved dream results. That starts a new beginning or end -depending on which truth you abandon-it forces you to hold onto something greater. A guide, A god, A Father, Yourself- A creator of beneficial thinking and behavior.
Benefits shouldn’t come back with negative interest. Do what means keeping your dreams, your life, and your dream life in your hands without surrendering prayer.
Fathers!
You are the arrow. Your love is the bow of sympathy, empathy compassion, and strength. Children are the target. Remember your similar struggle! Don’t allow those memories to haunt the spirit of the child staring back at you.
The son will test you. They don’t realize that’s an automatic failure. A Father must rule with respect, patience and a force that makes children see, understand, face and sometimes avoid the potential outcomes they welcome. The result will never be as easy as the thought.
It’s not always a good feeling. It reminds me of many ass whoopings I got as a child, so I grew up fighting to build a kind, gentle, peaceful identity. Thats why I would rather force my children to think than take a beating.
Fathers!
Be there to provide, protect, and love unconditionally- which is hard when children put us in hateful positions. Remind them that doesn't make us a threat.
To my Sons! To my Daughter! Our love is the solution even when you're the problem!
Dad Joke.
What did Cinderella do when she got to the ball? She gagged.
Music I’m Enjoying
OUTKAST--Their song 13th Floor/Growing Old is in the heaviest rotation.
Book’s I’m Studying (The Holy Ones)
THE BIBLE
THE QURAN
Book I’m Reading (I’m a writer so I’m studying these too)
THE 50th LAW (50 Cent & Robert Greene)
Movie I Recommend
The Boy and The Beast (2015) by Mamoru Hosoda.
For all the Father’s wondering “HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?”
My advice is Just Don’t Pull out!
FIRST 48
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THE FATHERHOOD EXPERIMENT: A Newsletter for fathers
Are you serious enough to love when they don't want your version. When it hurts to give and receive theirs. Sometimes the smile cuts like a knife. Daggers on both sides. A Fathers sense and humor has to carve out loyalty.
First 48...
SECONDS AFTER AN ARGUMENT
Feel the sadness. Feel the violence.
Remember when your child didn’t listen to warnings not to play with danger- until the pain of their cries stung and made you flinch like stitches. They fell, split their lip and SCREAMED. You pop them in it as punishment-part of healing your anger. As the prophet of injury, you hope the pop shocks them quiet and seals their lip shut, like it never happened.
You wish you were a magician, so you could turn back the belligerence that transforms idiots. But sometimes smart people behave dumb, it's how they test. After they disappear to their room, it’s calm for a minute, now that their face is out of reach and off limits.
Those emotions are brutal, you feel battered. You have love available, also some hate stewing like an upset stomach. The shit parents never think they would have to deal with.
Focus On What Needs To Improve
The house turned chaotic because you only focused on problems. The solution is like keeping your kitchen clean. Wash as you go instead of letting the dirt sit and pile up. What's cooking might be good and bring y'all together, but nobody wants to eat in filth. It makes it all unenjoyable.
HOURS AFTER AN ARGUMENT
Waiting for another. Recovered and ready for slick comebacks, parents usually don't have the energy to think of. Children on the other hand, are never slight with hacks.
Look at discipline like a movie. What is allowable parental aggression? What do you want your child to see, feel, and hear.
Silence, pops, flicks, plucks, smacks, yells, spanks, grounding without pounding is a fathers UFC. (unless it's the mother of your seed). U Fucking Care. At some point kids love to hit you with the I dare you to, and try to make you prove how much you don’t.
What they really want is the YOU, before the first 48 wardened your humor. Before they felt like a prisoner not allowed to express themselves. Before they felt hostage to a prowling overprotective, out of shape, afraid of fun parent, always on the lookout for damage.
Fathers want the same. The problem is trying to tame the wild. The younger you. The version you locked away.
Pay attention to the lesson your child's trying to express. They may not have the words but are loud and clear with emotion and action.
Focus On Current Happiness
It's about what's happening NOW. You can't change what happened then, but if that's your only focus, it will happen again. It's how we carry trauma.
THE NEXT 4 TO 8 DAYS…
The house should be different. The way it should’ve been at first. Parent to child, better lead with respect. No longer fixing energy to show how life would be without each other. (I remember wishing as a child that I had different parents).
Feel the love. Pray and wish you never feel anymore neglect. Now for the next, focus on that happiness. Love while young. Love while mature, most importantly fathers need to make it apparent.
Dad Joke.
"Knock Knock.
Whos there?
Radio.
Radio who?
Radio- not- I'm gonna cum in your mouth. " (Chuck Palahniuk, Knock Knock)
Music I’m Enjoying
Chaos is My Ladder (Ransom)
Book’s I’m Studying (The Holy Ones)
THE BIBLE
THE QURAN
Book I’m Reading (I’m a writer so I’m studying these too)
MAKE SOMETHING UP by Chuck Palahniuk
To all the Father's wondering "HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?"
My advice is Just Don't Pull Out!
LOVING YOUR KIDS 4EVA
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THE FATHERHOOD EXPERIMENT: A Newsletter for fathers
This Weeks Edition Is About loving your kids forever, fa-eva-eva- is a mighty long time. I'm a happy man when that's what's on my mind.
Step back to see how you can step up, modify or correct any behavior (positive & negative) and lead your relationships in the right direction.
This week is sort of a love letter, specifically for my Son(s)
A Fathers love is easy, but it's never felt that way because children think owning their thoughts makes them grown enough to say fuck it all and sometimes sneakily fuck all y'all.
We change so much; it gives ruin a run at our temple.
Build your foundation with love daily. Some mornings we wake up thieves- feeling like a weapon for robbery. Negativity is one of the suicides to life. Love can feel gone in a snap. We can end it all over ego with ideals pumping stronger than libido. Fathers have to fight to keep love alive with a will stronger than Thanos.
My Kid woke up cranky like he went to sleep out of tune. Vibrating worry for being irresponsible. Steady doing what brings life’s worries. Angry with doubt while refusing to heed conversations of discipline.
He opens your mind with piercing looks. Cracks a smile rather than a book but reads open moments to add his bit of sense. He breaks hearts while filling them with hope.
A survivor of covid is a lazy excuse like middle child syndrome. It lacks evidence, but what other reason would he argue to control, and refuse to stop until you lose yours? That makes me feel hurt and see violence. So, I step back to silence the riot. To figure out his escape, so I can help him find a better way and take it.
The desire for my children's success is part of the reason I started praying again. life feels spooky, and scary when a father sees he’s raising any form of lack and depression. I know an excuse and a deadly creation, and my opinion makes me an asshole who gives a shit about their differences.
Childhood taught me monsters are real- even though adults tell you not to believe as they crossed lines into abuse and addiction.
Aaahhh Fuuck!
Tears flowing from emotions I thought I was over. Dosing worries I control. This can’t be the feeling they were chasing. Eyes blood shot, heart pounding, closing off to a world of love. The devil is one sexy bitch- and the way I’m feeling- God is the son of one. I don’t mean that, I just want to feel like my angels have my back.
I want to hit someone.
It feels like nobody understands-kids-suffering- unwilling to talk about the problems holding them until they believe they're out of danger. Turning parents into strangers. I wish they would hand them over. I’m a warrior against grief. But fighting is how we believe.
When I try to help, I turn into the monster they need but have a hard time relating. Moods shift, eyes glint anger, fear and confusion. Then I ask the question that makes me seem scary.
You listening?
But am I? or Judging?
I get the pain. Like- Andre 3 stacks- It’s in my veins.
You are never alone, and I know why you feel you can’t let go. The release means you don’t have cover. All eyes on your fall, but when you jump towards healing, success provides aid long past recovery.
I’m here to help you maneuver past yours and obstacles keeping you still.
Fathers want their kids to feel our love. But happy feelings ain’t always part of life’s luxury. So do what you need to get what you want, and you'll be satisfied with more than enough.
LISTEN!
I'm a proud parent when you lose, fail and fall. Continue facing everything quitters avoid, because it will help you win. So you always make me a proud parent
Fathers Be…
Present. Discipline. Understanding. Fair. Teachers. Teachable. In shape. Money Earners. Masculine. Gentle. Firm with Respect. Strong. Tough. Like Ice Cube said the "wrong man to fuck with"!!! I also say be the right man to love.
That’s the luxury and legacy your children will grow towards and love.
Dad Joke.
Are you a pie?
Because I’d like a piece of you.
Music I’m Enjoying
BIG K.R.I.T.
Book’s I’m Studying (The Holy Ones)
THE BIBLE
THE QURAN
Book I’m (Still Reading)
DUBLINERS (James Joyce)
Movie I Recommend
HARLEM NIGHTS (1989).
To all the Fathers wondering "HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?"
My advice is "JUST DON'T PULL OUT!"
A Fathers Job(e)
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THE FATHERHOOD EXPERIMENT: A Newsletter for fathers
This Weeks Edition Is About working through success and struggle.
Love for your child should be given not earned.
Do it and do it well. And when you don't-that's what you must tell yourself, because struggle remains when you pretend. Success doesn't allow hidden weaknesses. Learn to be the provider and leader of your family. That is what a father is meant to be. Never show up with excuses, it proves you useless.
Know this tho, a father will always be used. Make sure it’s for a purpose that benefits the ones you love and are teaching to control their truth.
STRUGGLE
Makes a man capable.
Never be ashamed of the ones you go through. It teaches you to protect your vision when laziness clouds your focus. Laziness is a foul stench to success. Along with a lack of ambition, it's the shit a father should struggle to stomach.
Struggles are brief moments when you own up to them. Otherwise, you will spread'em like a rash. You can make yourself love struggle- having fun being lazy- playing games and yourself, all day scratching and sniffing your balls and ass.
The cracks from working to carve out your worth will wear you down and mark you with the charm of the family junkie doing dirt to build trust and show love.
You can’t avoid struggle. I’ve tried. It creates and leads to more lies.
You have to look at what needs attention, not just what feels important. Don't settle until you’re rich enough to not fall for ruin.
STUBBORNESS
You gotta have it. Like a Spike Lee Joint.
A hard head beats suffering.
A lion has stages to his hunt to be king. He's gotta grow into it. Study conditions that influence. People will make the wrong decision if they think their integrity won't be questioned so peace must be pursued with a weapon. A father must form his from the stubbornness of wanting to own his gifts and humble his curses.
Stubbornness breeds a pedigree of living for a piece beyond what’s given.
I'm tired of hearing the last of the dying, so I give energy to life. That's a rare secret to plant rather than bury. It's a remedy for depression that sprouts happiness and eases worry.
Become the light your children chase, so the fun of lust, drugs, and reckless sex, doesn’t hold them in place.
A father should never hold their children in place unless it puts them 1st.
2nd is learning from failure.
3rd is rounding the bases of business instead of genitalia.
Remind them, nuttin' ain't free. Getting to it without preparation always costs more than planned. That type of stubbornness unforgiving.
A FATHER WORKS TO ENHANCE OR RUIN!
Understand both, and only master what fulfills the needs of the family.
A Man is Born. A Father is Formed. He is doom for those holding innocence hostage, gambling what allows a child to flourish.
A long life of struggle can cause fathers to chase death. The enlightened would rather build new memories than be destroyed by ones he can't fix.
Remember to make peace and share what’s left. You'll see what’s missing when your world refuses to listen. Spinning from stubborn struggle, the music of life's blues provides rhythm to work through your troubles. Just pay attention to who smiles, and frowns when you thrive and when you struggle.
A Father must make the most from the job he is given.
Dad Joke.
My wife asked me to spoon in bed, I said after you let me fork.
Music I’m Enjoying
Ka, (Grief Pedigree)-The Album
Book’s I’m Studying (The Holy Ones)
THE BIBLE
THE QURAN
Book I’m Reading
DUBLINERS (James Joyce)
Movie I Recommend
DEAD PRESIDENTS (1995). This movie may be hard to watch if you are a Veteran.
For a father, slow is fast.
Be slow to judge and fast to love.
A child will rush towards what and who makes them feel welcome.
To all the Fathers wondering "HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?"
My advice is "JUST DON'T PULL OUT!"
CLEANLINESS
Try to remove emotion from interactions. Emotions erase evidence so you can't reconcile for the family's benefit.
The dirt will always be there. Move to come up from under it. And away from those spreading it to always have a box to play in.
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THE FATHERHOOD EXPERIMENT: A Newsletter for fathers
This Week's Edition Is About Cleaning Your House
There are many things and many ways.
The most beneficial is to focus on the behavior and mentality you desire and want to keep.
Focus on the filth.
You Know! The basics.
They say cleanliness is next to raising your consciousness and life to a level d-evils keep the hell away from you.
Clean deep and often to keep dirt out of the head and jeans of your family.
YOU KNOW! The ones filthy people try to come in and out of, to create lovers of negativity and poverty.
USE NON-TOXIC BEHAVIOR & LANGUAGE
When you work hard to soften and dispose of your flaws, but the ones you call your heart focus on where you’ve been instead of how you're doing and the greatness you're trying to bring.
Try to remove emotion from interactions. Emotions erase evidence so you can't reconcile for the family's benefit.
The dirt will always be there. Move to come up from under it. And away from those spreading it to always have a box to play in.
CLEAN WHAT YOU WANT TO AVOID FIRST
It’s always about respect. If one person is holding onto a level below- the family will always eye the person pushing elevation as dangerous-and visualize being disheveled. That's pushing dirt to a higher level.
Men should raise men, not momma’s boys. We can't fuck around with forgiveness. We have to make peace with how it’s delivered, then adjust it to our essence because everything we hold can and will be used as a weapon for and against us.
Men should raise women to master their senses. They should never be a common body boys get used to feeling.
CLEAN YOURSELF UP
Fathers should provide. Motivate through ownership. Recovering from mistakes, while understanding- unless you trip or fall, it’s all done on purpose. Do what adds worth instead adding to the dirt.
People get what they seek and represent, they just ignore the manifestation of pain they know comes with it.
SANITIZE THE GERMS
My heart, patience, kindness, anger, and time are ticking bombs. I examine how I’m wired and somedays I’m close to running out. Some of the women who raised me taught me how not to be loyal. They stretched'em out and lined'em - addicted to the come up.
Hot bitches spring new and show you when the fall coming.
Clean your mind to recognize when the dirt's settling-when your kids laugh, wine and joke at discipline because a woman babies them.
Boys make babies.
Men raise them.
Gods guide and release them to create their own greatness.
TAKE OUT THE TRASH
It’s frustrating when past situations lead to busting off your future as a waste.
I'd rather have porn than a fake chick-i can turn it off at my convenience. Too much of that foolishness makes you think real ones are easy to fuck with.
Nipsey said "study your queen so you can give her what she wants without asking", but when every step is second guessed, A man will say fuck it and solely focus on mastering himself.
Every man needs His woman until they change how we feel with laziness.
Stop believing all the lies being sold. Influencing you to be rotten and, sexy. You'll end up pretty, spoiled and alone for that body you souled out for. Too much of anything you desire is unhealthy, and the wrong desire makes discipline feel like a Hoe!
I ain’t too hard to tell you how I feel unless the p!!!y so good and makes me come so quick that I think of crying from embarrassment. We have to run it back so you can feel what I’m working with.
Mothers!!! keep yourself mentally, physically, spiritually healthy so fathers can create heaven when we seed your earth.
Music I’m Enjoying-
Islah, by Kevin Gates
Book’s I’m Studying (The Holy Ones)-
THE BIBLE
THE QURAN
Book I’m Reading (I’m a writer so I’m studying these too)-
HARLEM SHUFFLE by Colsen Whitehead
Movie I Recommend-
AKILLA’S ESCAPE (2020)
Dad Joke-
Why did the snowman suddenly smile?
He could see the snowblower coming.
Special shout out to my wife- A Real, Sexy Woman!
To all the Father's wondering “HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?”
My advice is “JUST DON’T PULL OUT!”
THE RECIPE
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THE FATHERHOOD EXPERIMENT: A Newsletter for fathers
We know what we want to make out of Fatherhood.
We know what we want to make out of our Children.
What you need to know is...
What do your children desire? They will figure out how to get it soon as you leave. Don't allow the poison of deception to be any part of your relationship's ingredient.
What are YOU made of?
Good N' Plenty of what makes people not want to bother me. Also, what allows family to enjoy a serious man's company.
I’m made of everything that makes eyes sparkle and cry. I’ve been fucked up and rotten enough to press my luck but never took a label that would keep me stuck that way.
Only Be Sweet To The Women In Your Family.
I have no bitterness. I know what it's like playing with fire to feed your family. Nighttime chefs providing dough to those in need. Baby boys and girls holding the flame, so they don’t turn butter for bread. I've seen tears dehydrate and become water for those struggling to keep going. Remember to keep your cool and keep your head.
This recipe is full of flavorful notes on how to love, succeed and live long.
The First Ingredient Is To Know Thyself: Are you a leader, or a follower. You will be both at different points. Accept each. Do your best while in position. It attracts success to your ambition.
Man's mind is an economy. Learn to earn and be your own assistance so you can make yourself the difference.
Respect: Self-first. Don’t allow any fool to create distance.
Peace: It comes with doubt cloaked in war and pain. Agonizing over decisions, thinking your next move has to be perfect or life ain't worth living. Peace will seem like an illusion if you don't figure out what it means, looks like and feels like to you.
Exercise: Violently. Laziness is the enemy! Don't take what’s coming lightly. Being unprepared is a burden so heavy, most don’t come up from under the weight.
Happiness: These moments come and go like every good and bad thing in life. The secret is which one you focus on- not only while you experience them- but also after they are gone. That will determine which direction you move.
Violence: Be careful with it. Be active against it. Let me be clear, I’m not telling parents or children to become violent. I AM telling you to be aware of it. You may not like it, but It is a world popular ingredient. A Man, A Father, must stand for protecting and providing for his family, or they all will fall to and for everyone and everything.
The great, wise, honorable Malcolm X said, “If you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything!”
Consequences: Must make you serious. When you take them as a joke, you become one- standing still and extending the distance between what you want and what you haven’t achieved.
The goal is to provide what you need, celebrate achieving what you want- and be at peace with the failure you never allowed yourself to become.
Dad Joke.
Is that a mirror in your pocket? Because I can see myself in your pants.
Music I’m Enjoying We Live In Brooklyn Baby (Roy Ayers)
Book’s I’m Studying (The Holy Ones)
THE BIBLE
THE QURAN
Book I’m Reading (I’m a writer so I’m studying this too)
AESOPS FABLES
Movie I Recommend
A Bronx Tale (1993)
Repeat what works!
The recipe’s main ingredient should always be love. If that makes someone act distasteful, find a new kitchen.
To all the Father's wondering "HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?"
My advice is Just Don't Pull Out!
BUILDING BRIDGES & BEING PRESENT
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THE FATHERHOOD EXPERIMENT: A Newsletter for FATHER’S
This week is about building bridges and being present.
More power to the men owning and recovering from their sins. Fighting so their kids can see and believe their life is a blessing.
Watch how you show up!
Watch when you show up!
Don’t just be there!
It’s all about your presence! A positive productive one helps you build bridges.
The Power of Presence
Nipsey Hussle said “you know how kids spell love?--- TIME!”
In a world full of distractions, video games, porn, Anti and social media, kids may get excited about the gifts, but when they get bored, and they always do, they tell you. That means they want to spend time with you, so put down the alcohol, weed, phone, video games, food, and women you can’t afford to keep using. Go! spend time with them so they don't end up being a user too.
For the high minded that need to hear shit twice, being present ain’t presenting a gift for your child to open so you can disappear. Deadbeat dads have a powerful lingering spirit.
Here's some tips how Fathers Can Be Present and Build Bridges
The proper term is called Active Listening: As a father who likes to keep the truth simple, I recite the “you got two ears, two eyes and one mouth” to help you figure out--- what their mood is saying? What their face is saying? What is their body language saying? What are their eyes saying?
Are they off, avoidant, turning away like they want you to shut the fuck up? Good… If that’s the only lesson you learn from this, you have the beginning of a sturdy bridge so you can be present.
Spending Quality Time: This IS NOT about what you want your child to improve, unless that’s what they ask you!
Soooo...
Be Present in the Moment: Laugh with them and (gently) at them. Talk with them, not at them. Sit and chill with them, listen to their heart and headache music. You might learn what’s guiding their decisions, along with any unwanted presence.
Being is present father is planting good soil. It's different than dirt. It’s the DNA of God's work, unlike preaching judas word, and killing their ambition.
You won’t always agree with their growth. Try to nurture a different direction, instead of the version of perfection you never reached. Spread some good words that leave them feeling loved and heard instead of hurt.
Dad Joke.
What did the man say to the asshole kid, who said, "I don’t need to listen to you! You ain’t my dad?"
He said-"That’s right, I’m your motherfucker!" (My mother dated a few men I didn't get along with after my father split.) I ended up being cool with one of them. (He was an ex-con, I was a young'n, creating beef and made him the man I hated more than my pops.) Then I grew up, had children of my own and grew to love and respect both of them.
Music I’m Enjoying (Both Full Albums are Dope)
Song: Underestimated by 38 Spesh (feat Benny The Butcher & Che Noir)-Full Album is Mother & Gun
Song: Once A Man Twice A Child by NAS-Full album is Kings Disease III
Book’s I’m Studying
THE BIBLE
THE QURAN
Books I’m Reading (I’m a writer so I’m studying these too!)
TROUBLE IS WHAT I DO by Walter Mosley
FROM MAN TO SUPERMAN by J.A. Rogers
Newsletter I'm studying "5 Bullet Friday" by Tim Ferris
Movie Recommendation
O.G. (starring Jeffrey Wright) (2018)
To All the Father's wondering "HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?"
My advice is "JUST DON'T PULL OUT!"
THE BEAUTIFUL WAR/DIVINE MESSAGE
It’s a beautiful war-this life-how it’s taken after a lovely night. Stary eyes from memories trailing behind a bright future.
Word to God… How you behave is what opens the gates. The path of rejection is paved with the same decisions and behaviors that allow entrance.
The death of failure is about how you livin’ your discipline and how you feed it to your offspring.
My son is going through puberty. Acting like everything he does and feels is new to me. I encourage him to get up and change instead of sitting in pain.
“C’mon dad, I would if I could! You would help more if you left me alone. If you really understood… If you cared… You would give me what I want!” was the message, delivered by an aggressive look and ignoring my direction.
I thought about knocking it out of him. Then I thought- what’s worse- strengthening his sadness or trying to force him out of it. I remembered, when you beat the confused, they make sense out ignorant rules. it will make you a believer in the here and after because they live to haunt you.
WHAT TO DO?
I got angry and thought… Too much soft love makes mean suckers. He needs to see masculinity as rugged instead of made up.
IT’S GOOD TO HAVE EMOTIONS!
You can cry but you also have to fight to overthrow any guide to a soft, weak life.
I told him- at-least change what you’re wearing. Wash off the weary, if your plan is to be a miserable know it all, at-least be happy with your understanding. Because you will always have to answer when your decisions make you question what your what you’re made of.
For all the Father’s wondering “HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?” My advice is Just Don’t Pull Out!
PAY ATTENTION
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That’s where the love is. And that’s money!
WHATS MONEY IN THE HOME?
A good attitude, helping your kids work through bad moods instead of cutting ties, cutting loose and banking on being left alone.
Usually, a thankless job until desperation sets, then you have to bet on yourself and raise the stakes for everyone else.
Drop a couple jewels, so when they step out, they only check for people who carry themselves with respect.
Everyone’s got a tell!
THERE ARE CERTAIN THINGS YOU CAN’T GAMBLE WITH.
How do they converse?
Can they hold a conversation with substance other than what someone does or doesn’t have?
If they can’t, toss a book their way for change!
And Everybody’s got some nonsense to add-take it or leave it!
A man ain’t always judged by how he raises his kids but rather by how much he’s home. Even if you have a good one, they say- constantly spinning your wheels to go pay bills can’t pay the debt of being absent. So be careful what you gamble on, especially if you got love at home.
I say a man also has to get up, get out, and go get it- like my favorite group OUTKAST. Can’t gamble on thinking they can tell their kids not to be lazy asses.
YOU EVER BEEN IN A CASINO?
Feels like a crack house. A Trap you don’t sense-filled with smoke, drink, and fooled into enjoying giving away your rent.
THE HOUSE FALLS WHEN YOU DON’T PAY ATTENTION!
Arguments and disagreements about money and time wasted have a villain’s ending. You’re supposed to enter the home and bedroom for happy ones.
I don’t care how much love you got, nothing comes for free. You have to spend more than time. It runs out fast on a broke man’s dime. The patient love that used to put you to sleep, turns to heartache when you add to the lies.
Lack cuts people off to caring and belief.
Lack of love, time, truth, money, health, beauty, and patience.
PAY ATTENTION WHEN HOME AND RELATIONSHIPS START TO FEEL VACANT!
Open your mind so you don’t spread dirt, like empty hands plotting to feed an empty stomach because you can’t handle the yelling and crying from malnourishment.
To all the Father’s wondering “HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?”
My advice is JUST DON’T PULL OUT!!!
STAY DOWN TILL’ YOU COME UP
Art by @agyepkdesigns
The last thing you ever want to hear is “I can’t believe.” So always move like the truth so you can stay off your knees.
When you’re living false, any attempts of what you try to be fail miserably. It took me a long time to embrace living a long life, so I watch my step to find the best version of me in mine.
WHAT ARE YOU STAYING DOWN FOR?
I talked to my cuzzo and he told me it was GOD. And he was finally getting his breakthrough. Living helped him see how much we manifested negativity as we grew-upping the intensity.
I just allowed myself to really believe again. Too much death and living my life chasing memories of our scrappy breed. D-O-G’s before DMX was known, running through hell, carrying the heat that made girls hot.
Learned it was cooler to fight for a spot that can’t be taken by knucklehead’s with bigger Knots.
We used to get our asses beat for F’s. Now it’s the only way to help yourself.
Failure… Fuck that- You fail if you don’t try.
Family… He created his own, young, learned to own himself and responsibility, then grew into the king we always strived to be.
Creation and Family are some of the keys. You will be fucked without these. As you age you should create the one you need and try to add love to the one you grow to leave.
That will get you up and create happiness daily!