GRAVE DIGGER
I avoided regret so long I didn't know how to live with truth. I simply adjusted my lies to influence.
“A man is a man from the way he provides”-38 Spesh
A father should provide hope, but that ain’t enough. Kids need to see a man that gets tougher from his own losses-not just madness and wickedness from being fed up. That takes more than prayer lessons about caution.
It’s too late when you decide to turn back. When you hear that ticking in your head- that’s the emotional bomb telling you that chasing regret has blown your life up. All that noise is your signal to go somewhere else.
Denzel said “you can’t go to the grave with the uhaul truck”
Take your baggage to the grave. Pay your kids with respect. Don't re-supply them with neglect. Pass on praise instead of anger. Pass them the safety of self-control instead of the dangers of running wild. When the old timers say, “you only live once.” That’s half a lie because kids spend half their life living a parent’s truth. Teach them right so when it’s time for them to rest they can wholeheartedly be proud of their moves.
I used to believe sowing my oats made me a better, desirable man. Speaking with slick tongue, making chicks feel the holy ghost with horny strokes and devilish notes. I had to transcend that through Gods wisdom, knowledge, and understanding - realizing attending to self-improvement is the ingredient to improve life instead of treating and fucking it like…
To all the fathers wondering "HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS!" My advice is... JUST DON'T PULL OUT!
FIT’s
Uncle Jerome From SNOWFALL
On the days you don’t like your children-think about them as a friend who needs help and healing instead of a family member who needs to be taught a lesson.
Talk to them like that cool uncle who can laugh and tease and give you keys to a good life… Stories about you parents’ mistakes that resemble but were worse than yours. Pleasure doesn’t come from bagging that girl you been scheming on, but rather getting your muscle, mind and bread up and proving yourself right instead of proving others wrong.
Minding your mutha-fuckin bidness, but watch your tongue before your sliding through life bidding for forgiveness cause all you did was strike out of emotion.
To all the Fathers wondering “HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS!” My advice is JUST DON’T PULL OUT!
MADE IN
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Deeeez Nuuuuts
Just kiddin all up in it.
I got in trouble once and was asked how I want people to remember my name. If there’s any negativity attached to that answer-power-making others fear you-being able to fuck anyone who comes near you.
That all changes when you start living for more than just you. When you realize you were made in the moment self-control was lost but your life gave the blueprint to make mine better- in honor of.
Parents who struggled more than you wanted to believe. So, asking for what they couldn’t afford didn’t make you feel needy.
Just a kid enjoying what shouldn’t feel like a struggle or burden to give. Young and wild fools thinking dealers of independence and flashy arrogance are the only adults that are cool. Dollars making chicks holler before bed, so you already knew what was in her head.
Raising Abel bodies with a cane I sometimes use to step up instead of a crutch. I try to reel it in instead of holding back the love. It makes men crazy and weak instead of tough. The fight is what makes you-get nothing without it, so I’ll push to make sure it’s in you.
I think about the times it was missing and pray I remember how to give it. I have nightmares of forgetting cause years I been living under my potential. But that has nothing to do with you. I mention it because honesty has to be another virtue you-me-we are made in.
To all the Fathers wondering “HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?”
My advice is JUST DON’T PULL OUT!!!
Mans Best Friend
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MUTHA F!@$%IN DISCIPLINE
Young man, I understand.
Your tryna stay youthful so you don't have to face the demands of potential. A pass of that type won't ever be given-I forbid it. I'll always hold you to a higher standard than laziness and chasing failure.
Look GOT-DAMMIT!
I Broke the book of Guiness for mistakes repeated. For the record I still can’t believe it. I stay in it to win. Helping you cross the line of forgiveness. Pushing you forward so you avoid backpedaling like a leader caught in a scandal. Or an athlete beat by his poor training. Integrity of self is the scripture to help.
LISTEN BEFORE I LOSE IT!
I hold my hands more than my tongue-hoping prayers wash the stinging venom flung during the storm of anger and disappointment.
DAMN!
The way our chests swell has me saying- bless this child- his heart pumps full of wants so he refuses to see the need for thought.
IT GETS BETTER!
I just want you to build character and not become one.
Screen your flaws. Master your discipline when the glaring eyes are off- so when you step out you remain strong. Mentally, it’s lonesome when your honesty plays a part creating jagged hearts. Breaths that used to mean excitement hurt now, from resentment we let split, all we see is different- looks hurt so much we don’t even hug or use words.
To all the Fathers wondering "HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?" My advice is JUST DON'T PULL OUT!
When Family Disappoints
When family disappoints…
You need someone focused on healing. Food for the soul so life can be full of spirits that guide you to see and go get what’s missing.
For me it’s usually casual insanity. Thinking — -since I’m confident in my disobedience, it’s a mistake unworthy of punishment.
When family disappoints…
The strongest wish is to rid yourself of them. Unfortunate actions, events, thoughts of living without them bring tense anxious relief. Short lived as loving a woman you lust. A life of loneliness comes from busting up homes. Attitudes that make lovers wonder how they never hated… You… Made them hate everything about themselves. They expired by your side, under your watchful eye.
When family disappoints…
It’s because I WAS. I AM. The MAN Allowing such an Influence.
When I decided to chase happiness, my heart pounded as I fought against being wise enough to know what makes me happy without having it? That’s like a man teaching his son how to be a gentleman when his love hurts women. I believed I was the limit because I wasn’t living the image of what others have- smiles keeping a heart young-but if you look close, you’ll see aged agony from everybody injecting life they can’t handle.
To all the Fathers, wondering “How the Fuck Do I Do This?” My advice is — JUST DON’T PULL OUT!
Conscious Father
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You don't have to hide or protect your dreams to build your children's up. Dreams are what you need to be aggressive with.
Raise daughters to lead their love with respect. Have a mind for business and health. Always represent your inner child.
Recognize Anger-It shows what you will allow.
Recognize Danger- It shows what you are capable of.
Recognize Peace-understand war is influenced to start in the mind and ends in between sheets.
Recognize where attention goes of those you want and who want to win you over.
Raise sons to fall for love. Keep their earth firm and complete, like where the ocean meets the desert, provide the best of both worlds.
It's hard to be good. Anyone who says otherwise never tried. The bad take advantage. They soften hearts, seduce flesh, and create what seems like unfair chance.
They understand everyone wants attention. They act like a friendly prick, inching to find out how much they can get away with. Always there for your woman. Giving them a place to rest their heads for comfort when red is all she sees. Catch it or wave goodbye to morals, because they will choose chaos to fill a beach.
Pretending to be lost is harder than admitting wrong. Coming back means crossing paths with everyone you scarred.
No one is innocent, we all pay in a sense. Things we love too much undercut the people we neglect. Feelings pour like something spoiled and leave a stench of sorrow. It can make you think those lumps are what you couldn’t survive. That’s why you couldn’t keep it in and move forward. Being revealed is scary when we believe the world is our judge.
Keep your eyes on what you fear. It brings your strengths into focus. It's prophetic as a Jinn. Life depends on your belief and actions. Life is a spirit. Live until you’re empty.
If you have to con yourself to be around. You'll be the only one paying for something to remain worthless.
To all the fathers wondering "HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?" My advice is Just don't pull out!
Depressed Mode
Father’s get brain fog because they won’t embrace the depression that set in.
Thoughts…
I can't. I shouldn’t. It doesn’t do me any good? A man must keep his family improved. Any less- I’ll receive a sentence of lost respect.
How Fathers Remain strong…
Fathers don’t have time to be depressed. To remain a mother fucker, he’s gotta provide. Get it? I wish I didn’t. I would help myself sooner instead of thinking I will get better by fucking off, ignoring, and sleeping with my doom. That ending is never happy. It terrorizes everyone who loves you.
They say a Man can't allow Weakness.
I haven't felt strong in years- maybe less- not with all the stress. I've forgotten my best- ideas, desires, dreams and memories. The new life you regret begins when your fix is ignoring everything.
What does a Father’s depression feel like?
The nightmare of a good man trapped in the passing of love. Feeling everyone gets it but him. Hating himself for not showing enough. Because he believes success is about personal achievements and being able to spend money, not just time. Broke love is distorted, and when you come poverty, it feels like a crime. It feels like the family always deserves and desires more. Then he creates distance to make his family full of emptiness because it keeps him whole.
Get Professional Help.
If you feel like life is over when you have much life to live and live for. The homies you smoke and drink with have a skewed reality. The women you pillow talk with might see you as sick. They want a healthy dick. Put as much effort into mental health and wealth as looking cool and fucking the baddest bitches.
To all the fathers wondering “how the fuck do I do this.” My advice is Just don’t pull out!
THE WEIGHT OF IT ALL
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Nobody dreams of being…Heavy, fat, overweight, carrying unhealthy genetics.
Those crumbs…
When we indulge, in a hurry like a boys first time- we regret the outcome. A manifested accident is hard to love.
I don’t know any truly happy fat people.
I also don’t know many truly happy people period- something is weighing them all down.
Do I know all the wrong people?
I have obesity in my family. I always thought it was disgusting, and unattractive. Fat repels...
Sounds disturbing, but it’s a failure comforts of disease are found in. That’s been my experience. And my environment is built around obese people surviving on what’s killing them. My body feels like i’m killing it trying to lose the fat then eating and thinking everything to put it back.
What the Fuck…
Lord…
Bless the food making me tired. This drink making me too drunk to think. Fat and free, watching my finances dwindle, my waist, belly, and face expand. Paying more attention to my t.v. and phone than my health or stretching legs to keep me erect.
Now my kids are grown. Dealing with the weight of the world and parents’ expectations- as if that will eliminate mistakes that harden thinking and soften flesh — — so says the gospel of parents swinging belts.
I have never beat my kids except for lecturing good eating habits and doing the opposite.
I teach the discipline to work and exercise. To keep bodies and minds improving- moving away from the sympathy of success-thinking you are a tragedy if you don’t have the same experience-because chasing another man’s dream makes yours die violently-overdosing on potential and grief.
So…
Yes…
I encourage my kids not to be fat. More importantly, I encourage them to be in shape. Healthy enough to recover from mistakes and regret.
Some might scream hypocrisy and patriarchy. The irony is they wish for a father like me… A man raising sons and daughters to know and believe the power of their mind's bodies and sex.
A man raising sons and daughters to educate themselves to gain power and respect.
DOMINATE
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LOOK!
Look into your future. Look in your eyes. The guidance inside, don’t blink at the fear.
Look with confidence. Stare it down and away. Watch how it moves as it adjusts lust forms. It will always show in a way of warm feelings. The feeling before business is handled with a woman you want to give trouble. It will show a light promoting lies and truth, making you want to chase and lay in its ease. That’s the sucker’s tease. My East coast Brethren would say pause… and you should or else you will suck at life and kneel to create another’s dreams. Go be an Outkast and get up, get out, and get the life you want.
Dominate like the fire of hate & the wind of love.
The dance of the two make peace. Sway, spin and sweat-dominate personal ignorance and regret, and make failure cease. You know the price. Elevate your mind, improve your health, or make your body pay for your life. Change, make sense, cash in your pain. That’s the only way to make it.
Keep your Integrity-even if you lie. Tie it together with truth.
We’re all flawed. Work on yours, with honesty and show respect to those you love. Excuse their mistakes like the strangers you work for- the ones you wake up and pretend don’t make you feel like a whore.
Who and what memories are influencing you to dominate?
Who and what memories are influencing you to be dominated by failure?
To all the fathers wondering how the F!!k do I do this… My advice is just don’t pull out!
THE PARADOX OF FATHERHOOD
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The moment I relinquished resentment, that as a father, my future was not just about me, I was comforted with kindness that makes men find strength in love instead of a crippling tenderness that begs for the return of love given.
I pray standing up. That’s the only direction for my life, thoughts and worth. It brings me peace. I don’t care who it offends.
Do anything for the kids and their mother. Cherish the quiet without them. Then fill the silence with their names as a reminder to be a good man with a dirty mind that sees more than trouble and clean hands to mold a better future from struggle.
Bag a mother like none other, open her up toss her around to make sure she’s useful. I miss and no longer have my own, so when she reminds of hers my heart feels cold-because that’s not who I chose.
Make sure she’s a fun free spirit, encourage her to hold onto it, because responsibility ages like the brittle bones of a bed ridden ghost. I don’t wanna fuck nothing flat and brittle.
Desire to protect. Sometimes, to wreck what’s solid and beautiful so we can relate to flaws. Crush what you hold to prove your love controls.
Show your children pain without quit-and how to adjust to handle and avoid it. Life can be one but they can’t go out like a bitch. That lesson is how they get lasting pleasure instead of moments of happiness.
Testosterone Tone, Hard to the core.
Strong enough to raise up sons to shine as men. Gentle enough to raise daughters to beam with warmth and a force the world desires.
Teach them to know their worth and to shine like heavens gates. Think and believe in themselves. Sometimes they have to be selfish to understand how to give. Everyone needs a-little help. Self-reliance is the most powerful defiance.
A narrow focus can penetrate obstacles like a razor or a lazor. Whatever your precision- decide!
See what people are made of and their habit-forming behaviors-the same ones that formed you and your opinions-make you open to endings.
To all the Fathers wondering how the fuck do I do this?
My advice is, just don’t pull out.
The Fatherhood State Of Mind
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Fathers!
Put yourself first to improve your family’s confidence and value. Especially if you have a daughter. Raise them gentle, strong, and powerful like the earth.
If you have a son, make sure they shine like one-(I got that from WU-TANG).
Fathers should only bow to love. Their ambition should always rise above.
Never turn off. Fathers need to stay on. Brighten their home with the dreams and hope children struggle with, and fight to keep when they are alone.
Use discipline to love and guide. With hands, words and a mentality that doesn’t callous or hurt.
-And remember, for the fathers wondering “how the f!!k do I do this”—-My advice is just don’t pull out!-
DAD Thera-P_Y
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How do you quiet the negativity when it’s the loudest thing in your life and environment?
Some might say just remove yourself. That makes me think of Wu-TANG, when they asked, “can it be all so simple?” Not when it’s so deeply rooted like an S.T.D. that it becomes a natural part of you-don’t notice the rot and poison until your love and possibly family move lifeless.
Breaking free requires selfishness.
Selfishness is a tricky topic, and how you breathe life into success. Everyone swears by self-sacrifice, self-love, self-knowledge, self-respect. But when actions don’t match beliefs-you begin and prolong a life of fuckery at best.
Reverse engineer selfishness. Positive selfishness brings self-improvement.
Every successful person utilized selfishness to achieve dream success. Everyone knows how to be selfish in a harmful way. Thoughts, actions, beliefs, people, energy used to harm and damage yourself and relationships can all be shaped to create a better life.
Part 2- Cuming soon-NOT FOR PRUDE
Come in.
Let me show you around.
A.T.M. is how I cash out.
The act is discreet. The pleasure you recover is loud.
To all the fathers wondering how the fuck do I do this-my advice is- JUST DON’T PULL OUT!
Making it As A Father
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Sometimes, fathers search for what we don’t love when being a father demands and provides what’s needed but love aint satisfying enough.
I call it post-pardum regression- because we believe parting with what made us whole, or the freedom to penetrate another’s freely, without guilt, makes us less. It’s also seeing the future of raising and nurturing someone who doesn’t always want your version of love. There aint a man alive who looks forward to that rejection.
Fathers need to feel the risk is paying off. Its overwhelming, and sometimes hard to suppress the desire to risk it all. Making love out of what keeps us angry, worried, happy and believing life is beautiful and a mess. The stress of trying to keep shit perfumed so people can’t sniff the trouble you're into. Then turning it into a stable foundation for a better future.
Our mind never turns off, and it becomes a struggle to keep the rest of us from acting up-that’s when we shut down, and sabotage what we have and need to please the family.
What Fathers need to be: A god with tyrant tendencies. We don’t have to be mean but certain levels of niceness make us seem a kind of weak that can be overlooked and wasted every day.
We need reminders that our genetics are better than the players who couldn’t hang to finish the game they claimed to perfect.
We need to feel like we’re not stuck in the pace of children. We enjoy the happy moments and know how easily they are ruined. So, we hold everything in figuring out a way to enjoy it. Those are rare moments we don’t need to feel guilty for being selfish.
Being selfish is how I care.
It’s How we prosper. How I see the truth, and, how I avoid raising and contributing to humanities ruin-being stuck watching chicks get fucked on the tube-although sometimes it improves our mood. Sometimes we need to be left alone.
What we need all the time, is respect in our home.
ADULTERY
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Adults trying to find themselves.
Adults trying to please themselves.
Adults trying to find a happiness they feel escaped after seducing them, summoning them, dancing in front of them, moving in a way they wanted and needed to try.
Horrible
Wonderful
Disgusting
Tasteful
The sting tastes full of horrors. Memories become a series of new and old pain. You cry insanity because you want it all to return and happen again. And when it does, you push and pull away. The excitement and fun are life’s attraction-the fulfillment of manifestation. Something only your higher power can compete with.
Adults trying new things to steer their life the wrong way instead of trying to escape. Thinking it becomes stronger if you stay. Knowing we will be weaker if we do.
There’s something magically egotistical, about saying we overcame some shit we should have never gone through instead of admitting our foolishness. It’s the toughest sentence people commit to. Some enjoy their time. Admitting that is what changes the fool to being true.
Sneaking around a union that punishes who plays but pays who promotes business minded retreats.
To keep a relationship from sinking, we have to admit when we feel like it’s over. When one of us is bored and our thoughts, eyes, and attention start drifting, moving toward, lingering near that new body resembling the one we used to lust.
It starts with weight.
Is the relationship becoming a burden. Is it weighing you down? Are you able to smile anymore or randomly, freely think happy thoughts. Or are you constantly thinking something is wrong when they do something random, need a moment alone or get a phone call. That’s heavy.
Let me also say fat and happy ain’t a real thing because nobody wants to be fat. Nobody wants to fall out of attraction. But getting fat and falling out of attraction is the beginning of the end for love.
The hardest part of any fucking relationship is talking about what makes you happy because if it no longer resembles the person you are with, they will feel attacked.
The way to minimize that feeling is to ask about the action or the habits that are making you unhappy the first or second time you it happens. Because once you let it become a ritual, the negative spell is cast.
Talk Love. Think Fuck. Be and Adult and take care of and protect your love. But move on if that ain’t enough.
MidLife Crisis
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What brings a midlife crisis into your life?
Chasing, wishing to re-live and blaming your Old Life
When you aint happy, ghosts from your old life pop up, making you believe you can grab the past and reshape your future with the same mind that created your haunting present.
You wouldn’t purchase a gift you know you will return just to feel included. So don’t re-do all the shit that hurt you just to show off your wound.
Focusing on the old life tricks you into thinking you can escape the life you don’t want by ignoring responsibilities. Everything old dies. So, when you allow the past to lead your life, you run from peace and success.
Crisis comes when you feel like you’re letting family down while trying to keep your head up. You only want to face people you don’t love because their disappointment never cuts into what you want. They don’t mind you being stuck in the excuse of trying to escape. They want someone who doesn’t mind being left behind. It means one less person in their way.
New Life
When you are happy you find sanity in the madness of making it last. You put the ones you love first because they will push and drag you with them. Make sure you avoid the misery of people who only give you a second when expressing disappointment.
Crisis comes from no motion towards improvement-so you force yourself to become the person you wanted to avoid.
Regret Life
Do people really experience regret? If you did it, you must’ve meant it. You can make the excuse- “I didn’t think about every consequence.” But that’s like saying and believing “For better or for worse.” You should never help someone feel better about habitually doing what moves a healthy relationship in reverse-that’s like tying a just got married charm to the back of a hearse.—-If you believe that, you are in a crisis.
Loving The Wrong Person
The sex doesn’t mean they deserve to live in your head. Lust is the mindfuck that turns men to suckers-so they never get what they want, just what others decide to give. Men need to have dick discipline. Chasing every tail gets you pinned to a situation you’ll regret entering. And beating your way out gives you strikes that take you out the game and make you impotent.
Not Handling Your Business:
Check yourself. Being broke is and will always be bad for your health. If you have the sense to waste time, you can create moments to move forward and create instead of waiting to be rewarded.
OutKast said get up, get out, and get it. Self-respect comes from providing what books and the gram never fill. Acting on the knowledge and delivering desired outcomes helps you teach those under you the opposite of squalor. You will gain skills to make life seem livable, and lovable instead of tolerable.
Crisis comes from in-action. Think about your situation. Now think about when you posted up lazy. Body, mind, or tongue, you left too much undone until the right move moved on. We keep talking this king and queen shit, but if you’re waiting or relying on someone else, a life of crisis will be your crown.
The Real Path To Success
Be serious even when you’re not desperate. That’s how you become the asset and the benefit. Any other way makes failure certain,
Success is power, failure is knowledge you enhance moving away from the ignorant.
Chase your goals by any means, instead of telling people what’s next. Become dependent on the rewards of actions instead of words and excuses showing you lost your truth.
Don’t wait. Adopt the hustlers thought. Action makes you wanted.
Yes, it takes time manifest your ideal result, but you will get it faster through consistency. So just perform, you do it every day working to become your own idol instead of a fraud.
Acting on what’s real to you is legit hope. It creates better stability than legalized dope-you become the smoke, tantalizing minds, stuck in lungs. When they spit, you are what comes up.
Be serious even when you’re not desperate. That’s how you become the asset and the benefit. Any other way makes failure certain, like the dream of being stuck with what you don’t want, but somehow, it’s the only thing you move towards. I see this with employment and people settling for who's loving or paying them.
Believe you can do anything. But know you can’t do it all by yourself. Accepting help ain’t weakness. Believing that is resistance.
That shit makes you bitter like the person who talks you out of laughing and enjoying yourself. The same people boast about being negative like its where success lives-like a man without imagination who as a child, had his wings clipped, so every move he makes creates dead ends.
Life’s Start is a Success-You Can Create the same Ending.
The Power A Fathers Compliment
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Compliments breed power, confidence and help others feel their own.
They breathe life into those on their last or dying to be. Compliments bring necessary chaos when you feel at peace living in negativity.
Caring for others makes you feel godly, when you see the smiles and sparkles from eyes and teeth like the stars you wish you could reach. It shows hearts are open. It can be the start of new beginnings-like the moment you act on the thoughts of changing your life. That is a moment when you are always right.
Compliments show your care, builds confidence and teaches you how to help yourself. It also teaches you to care less about the hostility of selfish people’s ignorance. You begin to focus on your own mind. Seeing what’s useful. You become the tool used to lead and build. It makes you tough enough to care. That’s a desire men should always share.
Compliments and caring bring freedom to aggressively give a fuck about helping people out of the mud of the miserable. You become strong and smart enough to face the dangers of lowering your worth.
Compliments resonate like the vibration of a good lover. We all want some and caring makes them come. Compliments and caring leave everyone feeling pleased and loved and less mind fucked.
Lastly, compliment yourself. That’s the best vitamin for health. All natural like the earth and sun, and the only manufactured one a man should take other than his partner when she needs the…Don’t shy away from self-care and compliments. They help you get over all the fuck shit we as a society encourage and accept.
Fathers, recognize your power!
Thank you for reading. And to all the fathers out there If you are trying to figure out how the fuck do I do this, remember, just don’t pull out.
How To Be A Father When Yours Wasn’t around
Fathers don’t always stick around, but for those that are trying to…
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Fathers don’t always stick around, but for those that are trying to…
DONT
Hate, hate, hate, hate your love. Or run away from how much your children need you to relate. Don’t run or hide from how much you understand surviving pain. Don’t deny that YOU are your child’s connection to joy.
DO
Think of the happy moments that happened in Your life.
Gift your child those good times to remember. Think of them as the vice you need to continue living. Enter the house happy, it will provide an ease to your struggles;bills,job,relations and shit making you sick to your stomach, causing your stress, obesity, or baldness. Bringing happiness will ease the grip of everything you hold onto that’s cutting away people and things you should keep close.
When your children talk-make sure you actively listen instead of waiting to turn it into a personal therapy session. When they and ask for advice, give it without the regret you attach to your life.
Be realistic and express happiness with advice that makes them laugh and understand the struggle and success of discipline. Let them see you enjoy trying new things and working hard.
SHED TEARS
Yeah, its ok to let them fall. It allows you to see clear to repair damage and bring your children closer. They need to know you have emotions. Because when you fix and maneuver through pain, it shows you have superhero muscles- even if you got the Thor dadbod from endgame. (And if you are overweight, get your big ass in shape!)
USE LOVE AS YOUR WEAPON
Sometimes, fathers who ain't in the home use rage as a weapon. They were given the weapon as a kid. The violence, the abuse and the trauma- all advanced. They never saw different because as they aged, the world promoted and repeated the same sentence.
Hug, kiss, play, smile, spend time. If you only show up with money and gifts, eventually you look like you are buying expectations. It makes it seem like you have zero desire in the relationship. That's when children test the waters to see how easy they can drown the love just like their parents.
CATCH THEIR VIBE
Children show what they like. They also show their fears and desires. WARNING! They may not match yours. But You can still make them feel cozy and safe as socks or their favorite blanket during times they feel the chill of self-conscious denial-when they feel like giving up on their hopes and dreams. When they feel hurt and betrayed. When they realize it’s not easy as social media portrays.
Discuss and learn their beliefs. You may not understand, but it provides in their time of need and what they need is your time.
You may be at a loss for words, but showing Love, no matter what- gives feelings of power, trust and respect. That gives life to a relationship children want to cherish.