WARNING

WARNING!

A-lot of days you can't help your kids. You won't know how-and most of the times you do, they will resist, and you will resent them.

They won't believe your plan is cool as their favorite failing celebrity.

Your struggle is just as real, but minor failures don't have mass appeal. Attention is now the definition of integrity and wisdom. It's the law ruling and ruining life. Thats how people live in misery and only become happy when they create ways for you to join them in gossip, arguments, disrespect and betrayal.

That's why the devil is scarier than God and the most worried about person in the bible is Judas.

Anger and resistance to a truth you don't want to hear doesn't make you a man and doesn't make it less true. Not allowing anger to be the reason you lose control of respect, and your dreams is how you become the adult you seek.

When children sink into that place of confusion, when everything feels wrong, they may not come to you or want anything to do with you and too much rejection can make you hateful. Not enough that you want to lose love forever, but enough to wish to be left alone long enough that it up-ends home.

Rejection feels like a hateful, violent crime. And whether you fight or flight, both are meant as payback.

WARNING!

It feels worse before it gets better, when we hold onto depression-purposely pressing down our joy. Ruminating on every bad moment so our mental workouts strengthen our self-destructive muscle, feeding it anger towards that wonderful inner child, until they give up on playing out the life that made them smile. Refusing to think or worry about consequences because they believe youth never dies.

Thats how dreams get buried.

Kids think being an underdog at home gives them a reason to leave it all behind. A reason to keep looking back for something they wish they had. Because the adult life ahead is not anything they ever prepared for, or not the version they wanted to move towards.

All THEY SEE...

No one to stand up for them because they took their adolescent stand against everyone with real love for them.

No one to cook for them.

No one to guide them.

No one to console them.

WHAT'S NEEDED...

Be that stubborn thing, always in the way. Awkward but comforting like a secret hideaway that fits whatever attitude they need. A rock that gets scraped and pushed but holds still, pain and faith.

WARNING!

Children won't believe they were taught to rebel by a loving father. To demand they stand up for themselves. Think for themselves. Be a good individual. Create a world of kindness and balance mean behavior on a scale that tips power and respect in their favor.

They won't believe-all they have to do is ask.

Fathers know better. We have to be the blessing they receive in their time of need.

Teach your children positive labels for themselves without being negative towards others.

Dad joke

Knock, knock.

(Who's there?)

Dozer.

(Dozer who?)

Dozer some great assets you got there.

Music I’m Enjoying

Song: Life is Beautiful by Larry June, 2 Chainz, & The Alchemist

Book’s I’m Studying (The Holy Ones)

The Book Of Five Rings

Book’s I’m Reading

(Textbook for my master's in clinical psychology)

To all the Father's wondering HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?

My advice is Just Don't Pull Out!