HELP
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We want all the help in the world, but we don’t want the world to know we need help.
This week I interviewed Veterans, Businessmen, Businesswomen Recovering addicts.
I asked 3 questions.
What do you need help with most in the relationship (of your choice)?
If they were parents, how did their upbringing influence the way they parent.
How did their upbringing impact their life's successes and failures?
Understanding how to give love properly was the resounding answer.
Understanding how to receive love was the resounding concern.
Giving Love
Careful consideration matters.
Love should never feel like a hand me down. One size doesn’t fit all.
Children shouldn’t feel they need to become worthy of love, hoping it doesn’t change from moment to moment, depending on puberty, maturity, or how good or bad the parent's day was.
This creates a feeling of never being enough, and unable to recognize happiness or enjoy life’s rewards. When you have to find reasons to continue living and trying, you grew up with a disappointment that was exhausting. It never sleeps. It makes you want to blaze your dreams and signals an institutionalized mentality.
Out of sight and out of mind makes everyone feel dead inside.
Don't try to repair memories. Create new and better moments that will be enjoyed by your family.
Understanding How To Receive Love.
It comes with forgiveness. Working through pain and hurt you feel you allowed.
Listen to your senses. If family is creating ways to spend time and recognize your importance in their life, and in ways that make you feel worthy- ground yourself in it and use it to cultivate self-compassion and self-love.
Keep your mind and heart open to create love that you always wanted.
Also talk about expectations and what ya'll want.
Open communication allows you to decipher coded speech and body language of love becoming a familiar enemy.
Music I'm Enjoying
Gil Scott-Heron
Book I'm Reading
Games Criminals Play by Bud Allen & Diana Bosta
Dad Joke
What's better than roses on a piano?
Tulips on my organ.
Next week we will discuss question 3-how their upbringing influenced their life's successes and failures.
To all the Father's wondering HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?
My advice is "Just don't pull out!"
