BALANCIN-& BUDGETING A FATHERS LIFE
WELCOME TO THE FATHERHOOD EXPERIMENT NEWSLETTER
Rich Dad vs Poor Dad
Rich Dad vs Cool Dad
Which one are you?
For love or money, it's a man's duty to earn and provide both for his family.
This morning, I was reminded of something important. My son woke up and told me he loved me before I walked out the door.
I was grateful, we have reasons to live, but if you've been broke or poor you know more is necessary to keep bank accounts and families full.
Father's! You owe it to your children to handle your business. They don’t owe you for living. They didn’t bring themselves into the messy world you created.
Finances are Sexy
(Which is easier to discuss, finances or sex?)
They both are about creating, believing and understanding your worth
Talking about sex can be easy. As a father- at some point you figure women out.
I told my kids-"babies come from a penis doing pushups inside a vagina until it throws up."
My wife said “what the fuck!”
Was I wrong? Fuck NO!
I also told my daughter not to wear skirts or dresses to movie theaters or on dates while she was young. Because boys finger fuck and sniff to predict if it's a hit or miss.
Daughters should take their time. Rushing is what fools and whores do, and they always end up being taken advantage of.
I also told my sons to take their time.
The only oats boys need to worry about are cooked on a stove. Spooning too many females drains their primal focus-an important ingredient for men not to become suckers and jokes.
Porn, although awkward is also fairly easy to discuss. Don't embarrass them. it's natural to be curious.
What's hard-(No pause needed, or pun intended)- is screwing finances without pleasure for your entire life. Now that I think about it, it has to be easier than I thought because I kept doing it. That happens when you don't weigh your options.
So here we are. Learning to budget finances, along with emotions.
The psychology surrounding money keeps fathers acting like broke-minded athletes who can't wait to leave pussy smoking. Hustling backwards, paying the highest price to be dope.
Learn to earn.
It starts off feeling like a burden because labor is your initial worth.
The oldest and best scheme is believing you can get rich quick. That’s like saying Kobe only became great by simply copying how Jordan played. You don’t see the fails, struggles, airballs as a rookie, working through injury, doubt, depression when the world that once cheered, turned against him. Extra strength training. Extra studying. Extra practices. The courage to be disliked-using hard work to correct what he did wrong, making it easy to do it right—then doing it all over again, every day, consistently makes less focused and lazy people an enemy.
That gives the confidence to believe you deserve to earn what your worth.
Pay close attention to who and what gets yours.
Money is the woman you always wanted. If you don't pay attention to how she's handled, she'll slide any grip you had to another man.
Believe your worth more than your doubts.
When your children doubt you without testing a theory other than disagreeing, it's because they don't see any sign that you understand money. They're scared of going against proof that you have zero clue about creating and financing a successful future for yourself or them. They're scared to be the type of wrong they see you are.
Discuss what you did wrong. Show them you own your mistakes and actually correct them.
They say mistakes don't make the man but if you keep yourself ignorant by refusing to correct them, you remain broke on purpose. (Make that make sense)
Also, don’t judge for the same mistakes you made when trying to profit. You know where they learned it! Guide them to see the difference between poor habits (banking on negativity and emotional spending-buying what you feel you need). And rich habits of paying for what creates and sustains knowledge and profits.
Don’t Ignore facts, and truth unless you desire to raise poor disciples.
A father may not get the trust if he's not rich. Thats when he has to make moves like riches are the person, he's trying to make regret breaking his heart.
A father becomes a rich man by building trust in himself through understanding the cost of being undisciplined.
A father becomes cool when he executes his plans to make himself and family whole.
I’ve lived a life of being inconsistent with my goals and struggled until my 40’s. Now I’m a thriving writer and work hard helping teens, adults, and veterans who sacrificed everything for the country, government, state, and city that fights to keep them sick. The people who can’t afford healthy insurance (Yeah, you read that right-think about it)-and I’m one of them. Like I already said, I’m budgeting my finances, health, and sanity.
Compound Good Memories.
Cut options and opportunities allowing you to enjoy and excuse laziness, through body, money, and mind-illness.
I remember when my daughter was 5 and we were at the park, pretending to sail across the world on the playgrounds ship. She said “Daddy if you want to be happy, always do the right thing”
She’s 20 now.
Kids sense when something’s wrong and I was unhappy because I was too broke to be spending time at the park, having fun with my angel. Sadness becomes a father's God when he can't enjoy precious moments. And instead of listening to her back then I continued acting like I was immune to sin.
The worst moral sin a father can commit is having childish finances as a grown man, so your child has to depend on another hand and the government.
Intention
Empower your family.
Remember to empower yourself.
Learn the value of credit. It's your social and financial allowance. Gained through hard, honest, smart work. And if you are dishonest, you better own the hurt. A good reputation will keep you on the inside track so you can be the first to know where and how to profit.
Move with all intentions on honest progress. This seems like a no brainer, but if it was, we wouldn’t be stuck celebrating things that keep us fucked.
Focusing on sex when you are young leads to investing in the wrong person and robs the energy to achieve your dreams.
Dad Joke.
What did the man say to the asshole kid, who didn’t want to listen and said, I don’t need to listen to you! You ain’t my dad?
He said-That’s right, I’m your motherfucker.
Music I’m Enjoying
Killer Mike (Michael)
Books I’m Studying
The Kabbalah
MONEY-MASTER THE GAME (TONY ROBBINS)
Movie I Recommend
Coming To America (1988 with Eddie Murphy)
Podcasts for Fathers about Finance and Improvement
Market Mondays (by Earn Your Leisure)
Wall Street Trapper
The Come-Up Series
High Level Conversations (by 19 Keys)
The Budgetnista
