JOY & PAIN/ NEW BEGINNINGS
WELCOME TO THE FATHERHOOD EXPERIMENT!
This edition is regaining love in your relationship!
First let's talk about endings.
When is the relationship over?
Is it when you see your love start to do the things you did when you were unhappy?
Close Distancing
Same house different rooms. Asking for closure with confusing language because you're so mad & annoyed at everything, the only understanding your words allow is anger-because you want them to feel in danger.
Being mean on purpose like the asshole who tries to make everyone else be the piece of shit because he wont take responsibility for ANYTHING! Or, the bitch who tries to make everyone bend to her will.
I've never bent to anyone's will, except for my past temptation. I've outlasted & moved past them.
Giving in to anger in relationships influences those temptations to reach out & catch you slippin'. Makes your heart and spirit pound with hurt & damaging memories until you stop fighting for your love & begin fighting for its destruction.
Cliche "The hard thing is the right thing."
For parenting and loving relationships (in my case marriage)-this is always asking what's going on. Then taking the answer with love and responding in that imaginary, nearly impossible tone of always bringing love closer.
When family answers "NOTHING!" to make you seem paranoid & crazy- remain calm, remember to-say what you see. Beware... It may turn into a statement of blame.
"That's You Not Me!"
In loving relationships there is no just you or just me. It's You & Me. So, it's always We & US.
When love is allowed to separate; choosing sides of anyone other than home is the beginning of the end.
BEGIN
When you feel that anger & frustration that makes you want to isolate- push forward like the days you were first attracted & trying to get up in those draws, allowing nothing to be wrong, thinking everything was cute & unworthy of anger- even stinky farts. Now you're doing everything to cover up the stench of regret.
Begin by helping them see their importance & worth because the world & its work will make them see, feel, & want opposite of what their love is offering.
CAN YOU BEGIN LOVE AGAIN?
In a relationship where the feeling is ending, think about suffering. Its a strange request but you will naturally think about suffering less. Think who you want to suffer less with. I guarantee it's the family you have. Remember those moments & feelings of happiness.
Pleasure and suffering leave evidence. You choose which to build life and love on.
BEGIN Each day allowing yourself to fight for love.
Live each day being honest about what's making you sad & making you happy.
BEGIN With a happy ending to the day in mind & if you feel your love wake up different-Fuck until she changes hers!
The joy you get when you have courage to begin again is always better than pain of letting love end.
Dad Joke.
What’s the difference between light and hard?
It’s easier to fall asleep with a light on
Music I’m Enjoying:
Frankie Beverly & MAZE
I've listened to Happy Feelings (remastered version) every morning and every evening drive home since the new year began.
Book’s I’m Studying (The Holy Ones)
THE BIBLE
THE Bhagavad Gita
Book I’m Still Reading (I’m a writer so I’m studying these too)
NIGGER by Dick Gregory
To all the Fathers wondering "HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?"
My advice is Just Don't Pull Out!
