THE TRAUMA REPORT
The Fatherhood Experiment's Weely Newsletter
SUBTLE WAYS TO HEAL TRAUMA BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR CHILD
Troubles and ignorance live on through your children. So spread truth rather than feelings.
SUBTLE WAYS TO HEAL TRAUMA BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR CHILD
When children fight to win a loser's game-chasing failure and expecting success-thinking and behaving as if their future is based on a gamble they never have to pay for.
Then... When every conversation, and every interaction feels like a fight to save your way of life.
Challenge them with empathy and gentle questions, instead of aggression.
What changes do they want and are they willing to make?
Did they get the results they wanted? or the results they accepted!
Don't give in!
When kids blame and argue-a resistance forcing you to feel like giving in because you're tired and they have the verbal energy of child touting their favorite swear words with friends, free to burn parents discipline with fiery tongues.
You have too much love and pride to be weakened, so you try silence, hoping the shit your child keeps repeating, finally leaves such a bad taste they will stop, shut up and possibly listen or even better-pay attention long enough to lessen the pain they keep putting themselves, and you through.
Stop Fighting the Help.
Children show us when they're struggling, then parents fight them for their own personal beliefs and needs instead of working to understand our children's and supporting them.
Trauma makes us all feel like we want something different. And someone to know we need help without broadcasting our pain or feeling like we are a burden causing more suffering.
We will always have trauma.
Here is how you heal and use it for your benefit.
Release blame; think of how im-perfect your childhood thoughts and behavior were, and the mistakes you believed your parents made. how many of those have you made?
Be Patient. Nobody has it all figured out.
Listen- to wants and pay attention to needs.
Stay willing-to give and receive.
Remain forgiving.
Apologize.
Keep your love healing.
Dad Joke.
Did you butt dial me?
I swear your booty is calling me.
Music I’m Enjoying
GNX album by Kendric Lamar
Book’s I’m Studying (The Holy Ones)
THE BIBLE
THE BHAGAVAD GITA
To all the Father's wondering "HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?
My advice is Just Don't Pull Out!
